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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello therethere is a girl that i like she used to date my best friend at school but me and him haven't spoken for a while because we chose different career choices. she is a year younger than me and we keep in touch over facebook and msn. i have told her that i like her but lately i have noticed that one or maybe her best friend is very attractive.i have spoke to her just a little bit when i have spoken to the other girl. i like them both and i just want to know that should i tell this girl that i like her best friend as well her or should i just say nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Say nothing, there's absolutely no reason she needs to know.
Firstly it would be very inconsiderate to tell a girl you like her and then tell her you like her friend too, that can be hurtful and/or confusing because that's basically leading her on if she actually likes you too.
Secondly girls talk, especially best friends, they tell each other everything. Her best friend knows everything you've been talking to her about and what you've been saying to her, plus how she feels about you etc. So she will be the first one to find out that you like her too, how do you think it will look for you to be flirting with her only to tell her you like her friend, that's right, it will look like you were using her to get to her friend and neither of them will want to know you after that.
Lastly you need to make a choice, you can't have both, remember telling a girl you like her friend is not the right way to ask a girl out, you need to do it yourself. Whatever you do, try to do the right thing by both of them, if the only choices you have are gonna hurt one or both of them then don't do it.
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