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writes:Ok so I'm in love with one of my best friends. We'll call her Carl, no she's not a guy and her real name is not Carl. Anyhow I've known her since she was born. I'm with her almost every weekend, of course it's not just the two of us, her cousin (we'll call her Sam) and her brother (we'll call him Tre) also hang out with us. Every weekend it's the four of us, we stay the weekend at their grandparents house and then during the day we just walk around the neighborhood or we go walking in the woods and just explore. Any how I've fallen pretty hard for Carl I'm sure that everyone has their suspicions about this but I haven't said so yet. You see two years ago I told her I loved her and things kinda fell apart. I don't know it's hard to explain, it's like she liked me less because I liked her. Since then I've had one long serious relationship and I pretty much forgot about her during the relationship. During my relationship Carl and I built our friendship back up. Now she likes me a lot more, I mean she lets me hug her and she tells me about her feelings and she let me comfort her when she's sad. But I'm in love with her still, she's probably the only one that doesn't know it though. I'm afraid that if I tell her she'll feel weird about me again. But she has also matured a lot in the past two years, she may be able to take it better. I just don't know why she doesn't like me like I like her. I'm the only one in her life that doesn't call her a whore and a bitch. Her cousin and brother do it all the time, and she worships her cousin. I think Carl and I would make a great couple, I'd be good to her, I'd tell I loved her and take her places, and I would buy her flowers and make sure she knew just how special she is, and I would never ask her for sex or anything like that. You see I'm at the age now where I make my own money and all that, also she loves my car too, she always says that it's awesome. She's 13 going on 14 and I'm 16 going on 17. I know that's 3 years and lots of people say that it's wrong because of the age difference but If I was 23 and she was 20 no one would care at all. It's killing me not telling her, I don't expect anything major to happen if I tell her, I don't expect her tell me she loves me too or anything. I just need to know what I should do. I would just like to add that I'm not like stalking her or anything like that, I think that some of what I said her would seem sort of stockerish. I don't watch her sleep at night or anything.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I probably wouldn't just tell her, you've tried that, I know it was some time ago but I don't think you really want to go through trying to re-build a friendship again.
I would try testing the water first, see if you can spend some time with just her, look for signs and things she does around you that she doesn't around anyone else.
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