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I feel trapped; I want to leave but he makes me feel bad them I end up staying! What can I do?

Q.   Ok so there's been so much going on in this relationship. I'm 22 and my bf is 21. We've been together for two years and lived together for 1. Ever since being with him I lost alot of my friends and family. So at the beginning of our relationship I ...

A.   25 March 2010: I think you're right to feel like this, over the time of the relationship and his behaviour has slowly killed your feelings for him and the want to be with him and no matter how much he is trying now doesn't take back what he's taken from you and it ... (read in full...)

I'm gay but falling in love with a woman

Q.   Hi, I am a gay man. In my life i've never been sexually attracted to a woman, only men. My dilemma i now I think I am in love with a woman. Im not sexually attracted to her but I believe I love her. Is this normal? ...

A.   25 March 2010: I'm not sure anyone could really define normal as to each of us different things are normal going by what we feel is normal or right for us. I think you just have to follow what feels right and trust your feelings on this.... (read in full...)

I don't want to remember a friend who makes me feel guilty every time I look at him or think of his name.

Q.   hey here's my dilemma, i see a guy i fancy every day vertually without fail almost every other hour, it's enevitable, we both live in the same village and we go to the same school but thankfully we're not in the same year. the annoying thing is, is ...

A.   25 March 2010: So they recommended you didn't make contact or accept any contact from him not that you're not allowed to?... (read in full...)

It seems awfully easy for her to walk away after two years ...

Q.   my girlfriend told me out of the blue that she doesnt feel the same love anymore for me....this happened after we both were frustrated to the max because i kept on nagging her for not giving time to this relationship....we were seeing each other ...

A.   24 March 2010: I can't comment on whether the relationship you had was fake but from what you've said I am lead to think that shes grown out of you and this relationship. I would keep up with the no contact, when a relationship ends we need to cut contact ... (read in full...)

Fear is getting in the way of satisfying her

Q.   One night my girlfriend got really carried away when she was on top and it slipped out. She sat on it and it hurt really bad. I was lucky that she didn't break it. Now when she gets on top I go limp. I get hard again real easy but the only way ...

A.   24 March 2010: I would start by finding a way to get over the fear of that night where it hurt and now you're struggling with relaxing when in that position. I don't understand why she felt the need to tell you such detail on what her and her ex boyfrien... (read in full...)

Caught in compromising footage on the internet, ..but it was all totally innocent!

Q.   Several years ago, I was leaving a concert. As we heading to a parking garage a woman on the street took off her top and lowered her pants showing everything. She bent over in front of me and gave everyone a show. The whole thing lasted only a ...

A.   24 March 2010: I'm pretty sure you can contact the website it is posted on and get it removed, all websites I have come across do this if contacted and requested with details on. When you say several years ago, was this before or after you got married?... (read in full...)

An affair that has destroyed me

Q.   *OP's own title* won't go into the details the affair lasted over a year. We were caught four months ago. My husband wants to fix our marraige I don't. All I CAN think about is this other man. Will I ever get over this. Feel so alone. My heart is...

A.   24 March 2010: I'm not sure whether the way he is being is due to him wanting your relationship over or whether he feels he is doing what is right by you, either way you need to start by working out for sure what you want from your marriage, if you dont want to be ... (read in full...)

6 years on I am wondering if there could be more between us.

Q.   I have been involved with a man now for 6 yrs. When we first got together I really thought that all it was going to be was a one time thing and nothing more. Now here it is 6 yrs later and we still see each other on a weekly basis. Could ...

A.   24 March 2010: There could or it could just be that its become a habit to continue seeing each other in this way, you need to work out what you want from the situation and what your feelings are towards him and then talk to him.... (read in full...)

My elderly neighbour had a go at me for dressing too revealing!

Q.   my question is regarding wearing saree, i am a housewife. i wear sarees only, recently was hurt when my neighbour, an old lady rebuked me for wearing a saree sexily, whe said that i should not expose hips n navel when i wear saree. i have got used ...

A.   24 March 2010: If you're happy with the way you're dressing and so is your husband then I don't see why you have to or want to change that, how you dress isn't really anything to do with your neighbour unless you was running around the garden naked which you're ... (read in full...)

I don't want to remember a friend who makes me feel guilty every time I look at him or think of his name.

Q.   hey here's my dilemma, i see a guy i fancy every day vertually without fail almost every other hour, it's enevitable, we both live in the same village and we go to the same school but thankfully we're not in the same year. the annoying thing is, is ...

A.   24 March 2010: The part I can't seem to understand is if another girl framed him and made out she was a victim therefore he got into trouble with the police what that has to do with him not being able to have anything to do with you as far as the police are ... (read in full...)

How do I keep a LDR fresh and make her feel wanted and special?

Q.   Hi guys. I wonder if anyone can help me with some good advice to my problem. I met a girl a few months back and got on really well.We decided that we would start a relatioship. The problem I have is that she lives in another country and now has gone...

A.   24 March 2010: I have been in a long distance relationship and I have to say it does have its good points as well as bad ones. Although you can't be together as much as you would like you also get your own life and the chance to miss each other and find you make... (read in full...)

He chose her over me! Why do I break down when she speaks about him?

Q.   this guy me and my friend like, chose her and when ever she tells me news about what happened between them sometimes im cool with it and somtimes i break down! help!...

A.   24 March 2010: If this is really bothering you then I would have a little talk with your friend and explain that although you're happy for her and them being happy together you don't really feel comfortable with hearing stuff about it all right now. If she is a... (read in full...)

Will not having sex early mean I will never lose my virginity?

Q.   I know, I know this is such a dumb topic to talk about but I'm at a loss. I'm 17 and still a virgin, nothing unusual right? But here's the thing I recently found out that out of all of my friends I'm the only virgin. I was totally shocked by this, ...

A.   24 March 2010: I don't believe there is a right or wrong time to lose your virginity obviously within reason and legal age limits of course. I believe you will feel right about losing it to someone when it feels right for you and noone else. There is noth... (read in full...)

Should I let bygones be bygones and take another chance with her or should I walk away and always wonder what could have been?

Q.   A very long time ago I was dating a girl that I was completley in love with. It's been twenty years ago. She played me for a fool and was sleeping with another guy. She wouldn't even have sex with me so when I found out I broke up with her. ...

A.   23 March 2010: If you still have feelings for her and you have been able over this time to let go what she did to you then I would suggest giving it another chance. In the time you've been apart you have both probably changed alot but remember she could also sti... (read in full...)

My boyfriend treats me well, but I think I'm starting to like his friend. Please help!

Q.   him im 13 me and my boyf have benn together for 3 months he treats me really well but i think im starting one of his friends, he touches me in all the right places and when my boy friend aint lookin we hold hands and he rubs my bum plz hel...

A.   23 March 2010: Well for one thing until you work out what you want to do then you need to stop holding hands with and letting his friend touch you. At the moment in some form you are cheating on your boyfriend, you need to work out what you want and when you... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my friend, but she changes her mind about me and reverts back to guys. Help!

Q.   I'm 14, female, and bi. I know they say I may be too young to be 'in love' but I honestly, truely believe I am. There's this girl, who is now a very good friend of mine, that I've known for almost a year and a half. We became friends quickly. Since ...

A.   23 March 2010: She might still be confused about her sexuality or she could have interests in both males and females. This might also be really strange for her, you might be the first female she's had any feelings for, any attraction towards and she might be... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem to be in to me, should I leave it and wait until he talks to me?

Q.   I met this lad a week ago and he took me out on a date the other day, we went to the pictures and for something to eat. The convosation was good we had a laugh but then when we went in to the cinema there was nothing there, we didnt hold hands or ...

A.   23 March 2010: You could be right or he might be thinking the same thing and backing off a little to see if you're into him. I would contact him and see if he fancies doing something, if he does you're not left waiting and if he doesn't then at least you'll k... (read in full...)

Her importance to him bothers me, but he says I'm just jealous. Please help!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We also live together. We have a great relationship, but there is one big issue. His female friend Suzy. Suzy is his old roomate who screwed him over on about $5000 worth of household bills. ...

A.   23 March 2010: You're not crazy, this would completely bother me for many reasons. She completely messed him over when they house shared and he's still continuing a friendship with her after that which surprises me straight away, that would be the first thing th... (read in full...)

He said he loved me, but had commitment issues to work on. Help!

Q.   Me And My Ex Bf Have Been Together A Year And A Bit, We Fight All The Time, Due To The Fact He Lives 15 Hours Away From Me, But Comes And Stays With Me Often, His Family Hate My Guts, Even Tho I've Never Spoken To Them Really, And They Are All Close ...

A.   23 March 2010: I don't understand why his family dis-like you so much when they hadn't met you, there must be something he's not telling you regarding that, maybe he's been telling them things that has caused them to dis-like you. He's messing you around, ... (read in full...)

What are some symptoms of pregnancy, and how soon can I take a pregnancy test?

Q.   Hi there.. I'm in a bit of add situation last time I had my period was 10 feb, 3 weeks ago I my bf and I had sex after that last week we did again. Problem is I can't remember when last I have had my period since the 10th of feb, I actually don't ...

A.   23 March 2010: Most pregnancy tests you can take on the day you period is due, or a few days after that, if your periods are regular then you need to count your one week from the day your last period started and 3 weeks onto that.... (read in full...)

What physical attributes do you like in a man?

Q.   What physical attributes (body parts) do you like in a man? Ladies, here is a question which I hope you take your time in answering. I bet you Women hear that most guys love a women's "butt" or Breasts" or even "Height"...so now its your turn....

A.   23 March 2010: Appearance wise. They have to be taller than me, thats a must for me and a preference they're still taller than me or about the same height when I've got heels on. I prefer brown hair. Eyes! They've got to have eyes I can just look into for... (read in full...)

She wont look at me when I talk to her, why is she doing this?

Q.   I talked to a girl that ive found cute after class that has the same major as me in collage that seems really timid. She doesn't talk ever even when the rest of the class has conversations and just sits and stairs at her computer working or surfing ...

A.   23 March 2010: It might take a little while for her to feel comfortable to look at you and look you in the eye when talking to you but if you like her I'm sure its worth getting her number and getting to know her and allowing her time to come out of her shell and ... (read in full...)

He sends out mass texts to girls he's slept with. He thinks I'm being jealous. Please help!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We also live together. About once a week, he sends out a mass texts to about ten girls. Most of them he has slept with and flirts with them. Most of these girls I have never met. To the ...

A.   23 March 2010: If these girls were his friends then he wouldn't need to mass text them to make sure they are still around in his life, they just would be and it wouldnt matter a week, a month or a year, a real friend is there even if they're not right there. ... (read in full...)

I admit I'm getting clingy, How do I keep from seeming overbearing?

Q.   hi everyone ive been seeing a guy for about nearly a year now, last year we went through a few communication problems (i was used to him iniating contact and i never did, which hurt him alot, which we resolved) and the beginning of the year we...

A.   23 March 2010: I feel you've answered your own question within your question. You said at the beginning how it was him always contacting you and you not doing so unless he did and this hurt him alot, theres your answer to whether you should contact him. ... (read in full...)

He had an emotional affair, is what he's done forgivable?

Q.   Help! I really need some advice on what to do. I'm in my late twenties and I've been with the same guy for the past decade. We were best friends for the first year while we dated other people, but fell head over heels in love with each other. ...

A.   23 March 2010: The bit I can't seem to understand is that if from his side of things this was just a friendship and nothing in it at all from him why he felt the need to keep it from you and keep it like a dirty secret. I think something like this can be forg... (read in full...)

I like him but his actions make me uncomfortable....

Q.   I am 21 and recently I am just attached with this guy from my university. He is 2 years older than me and we are happily attached for a month already... Recently, he has been really touchy and I am not really that comfortable about it. Th...

A.   23 March 2010: In most cases, early in a relationship the physical contact is light and affectionate but then some people do prefer to be abit more heavy and full on. If you're not comfortable with this I would speak to him, if he likes you too then he will res... (read in full...)

How long does it take birth control to digest?

Q.   [Moderator's Note: OP's own title] ok. so. i just ended my period this last sunday. me and my boyfriend had sex, and i was supposed to start a pack of birthcontrol that night. i didn't have the pack tho and i had to wait until monday to get it. ...

A.   23 March 2010: I'm not sure about all pills but I do know mine has to be in my system at least 2 hours, after that is fine, there should be information in your leaflet within your pack that tells you how long your pill has to be in your system but I would still go ... (read in full...)

Should I wait for my ex to be ready for a relationship again?

Q.   Alright, its been like 3 months since my ex and i broke up, We've been together for a year then out of the blue BAM went down the drain :/. Soo anyways she wants me to wait for her but its my choice if i want to or not. She also wants me to stay ...

A.   22 March 2010: By her realising you are what she wants and actually does something about it.... (read in full...)

How do I handle this situation? My son's father has a new girlfriend and I am finding it hard to cope with it!

Q.   my son's father and I haven't been together in four years. We have always been off and on with relations. Recently he got a girlfriend and I think they are serious ! I think she is living there if you ask me she is always under him always over ...

A.   22 March 2010: If this is just about jealousy then you have to find a way to deal with it and let go. If this is truely about having someone else thrown into your sons life too soon into your ex's relationship then you have a right to discuss this with him and ... (read in full...)

Married and still wanting to be with my abusive ex boyfriend.

Q.   I had been in an off and on relationship with my ex for over three years. We and everyone around us from the beginning said that there was a powerful connection with us and it made those in our company always feel like a third wheel. However he ...

A.   22 March 2010: I don't really think anyone can answer that, alot of people find going for the bad boys/girls is more appealing than the good ones yet are forever wanting to find someone that will treat them good and right. I really don't think you should g... (read in full...)

I've fallen for my best mates ex girlfriend, and am leaving to become a marine. What should I do?

Q.   Hey people, I seriously need help .. Ive recently fallen for a good friend of mine but we really shouldnt go out.. There is almost everything wrong with this relationship.. *She is my ex girlfriends best mate *She is my best mates ex girlfrie...

A.   22 March 2010: Can I just ask, if you did go for it and forget all the other issues that are stopping you, what would happen if come August and its time for you to go but you find you've fallen in love with her and can't bare to be without her?... (read in full...)

She wont answer my calls, is she still angry with me?

Q.   i have got married to the girl of my dreams and lost her 1.5 months after wedding, the reason was our repeated arguments and i was tough enough with her although i love her more than myself. she left three weeks ago, she is not answering my calls, ...

A.   22 March 2010: It could be anything, it could just be she still needs time before she is ready to talk about the marriage and situation. I would try sending her something not expecting a reply but something in the way of telling her how much you love her and ... (read in full...)

She wont look at me when I talk to her, why is she doing this?

Q.   I talked to a girl that ive found cute after class that has the same major as me in collage that seems really timid. She doesn't talk ever even when the rest of the class has conversations and just sits and stairs at her computer working or surfing ...

A.   22 March 2010: It could be shyness or lack of confidence, sometimes when someone is shy or not very confident they find they feel alot more shy when looking someone in the eye. Other than that people that lie sometimes do it but I would think its the first on... (read in full...)

I'm embarrassed and need advise as to what this could be. Please help!

Q.   Im actually quite embarassed to be posting this but i really need advise on what i think may be a problem with my vagina, when i put my finger near the hole my finger catches on this skin maybe im not sure but its like a loop that my finger ca go ...

A.   22 March 2010: I know you feel embarrassed about this but I would recommend getting an appointment with the nurse at your doctors surgery because it will put your mind to rest more so then having a few different ideas from your description.... (read in full...)

I'm jealous and it eats me up inside, how can I get over that?

Q.   Hey i am a very jelous person but i only am when it comes to my boyfriend. I dont let it afect our relationship cuz i keep most of my jelousy inside. Cuz most of it is stuff that he cant help like girls liking him an stuff like that. But it eats me ...

A.   22 March 2010: You need to stop over-thinking things, when a thought pops into your mind you need to distract your mind onto other things. This is obviously something, a worry inside you not a worry bought on by the way he's behaving so you need to find a way to... (read in full...)

My new partner confessed to cheating on his previous partner for 16 years. Am I unresonable to not want him having contact with this woman?

Q.   I started a realtionship with a guy I chatted to on a dating site for 2 months. We seemed to be perfect for one another and I wasn't disappointed when we met. A month after meeting (and getting on so well)he told me something which shocked me.........

A.   22 March 2010: I would casually in another conversation bring up the discussion about lying, I would somehow get into the conversation and put in how you could deal with most things but lying you couldn't, how knowing the truth might hurt to start with but lies ... (read in full...)

He wont move out from his mum's house. Should I move on?

Q.   i have been with my guy for almost 4 years, but anytime wee talk about moving in together he sais he has to live with his mom to help her!!!! Do i stay with him and see where it aill go or do i try to find my happiness somewhere else???...

A.   22 March 2010: That's what I wanted to check, make sure he wasn't at home helping her in a carer kind of way. As its not and its really silly things that she can actually do herself then I don't really see why he needs to be there to help her. I think he's us... (read in full...)

Should I go out with my mate, or try to get my ex back?

Q.   Ok so as i have said before, i was seeing my ex for 8 month and we split up 5 month ago now. He was my first love and i also lost my v to him. I still love him and i would do anything to get him back. He has said several times that he doesnt want to ...

A.   22 March 2010: I would talk to your ex and see where you stand with him once and for all, if theres no future in this for you or you decide that actually you don't want there to be then I would not jump into something with your friend but maybe try spending some ... (read in full...)

My new partner confessed to cheating on his previous partner for 16 years. Am I unresonable to not want him having contact with this woman?

Q.   I started a realtionship with a guy I chatted to on a dating site for 2 months. We seemed to be perfect for one another and I wasn't disappointed when we met. A month after meeting (and getting on so well)he told me something which shocked me.........

A.   22 March 2010: I completely agree with you on this, this is someone he was sneaking behind his ex's back with for years, I would also have concerns if I was in your position. Its also about time she stood on her own two feet instead of relying on and using hi... (read in full...)

I regret having an abortion and feel I have no one to talk to about it!

Q.   im 15 and had an abortion last year in febuary. all i think of know is what if i kept the baby. I have very strong feelings, and have no one to speak to about this. My mom stood by me when i had the abortion but i feel akward speking to her k...

A.   22 March 2010: You're right, you can't change this or go back in time and change the decision you made but you have to find a way to deal with it the best you can. I don't think this is something you will ever get over but I do think your Mum is right and it w... (read in full...)

Should I wait for my ex to be ready for a relationship again?

Q.   Alright, its been like 3 months since my ex and i broke up, We've been together for a year then out of the blue BAM went down the drain :/. Soo anyways she wants me to wait for her but its my choice if i want to or not. She also wants me to stay ...

A.   22 March 2010: I think its unfair she's asked you to wait for her, I know she's given you the choice that you don't have to but by her asking you to wait you do get left with the thoughts that she is coming back and waiting is what you should do. She seems li... (read in full...)

He wont move out from his mum's house. Should I move on?

Q.   i have been with my guy for almost 4 years, but anytime wee talk about moving in together he sais he has to live with his mom to help her!!!! Do i stay with him and see where it aill go or do i try to find my happiness somewhere else???...

A.   22 March 2010: Can I ask what reason/capacity he is needing to help her? I think its best to know that before being able to give a true answer on this.... (read in full...)

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