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Should I tell a woman that I don't really know that her husband cheated with me?

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Question - (28 June 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 June 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *anttoleratebs writes:

Should I tell a woman that I dont really know that her husband cheated with me?

I dated a guy for more than a year, I was close friends with his sister. We both had our own issues, I lived with a man, and he lived with a woman. My relationship was over however, we were both on the lease. He told me that he was having the same situtation, so I understood. I often went to his home that he shared with his now "room mate".

After being together for almost 15 months, there was no more excuses as to why they should remain in the same home. As for me I had already left the previous house when the lease was up. I started having lots of questions that my so called boyfriend didnt have exceptable answers to. After I heard that the room mate spent Christmas with him and his family and almost got into a fight with another woman that was coming on to him, I had tons of questions. Then i decided to wash my hands of this mess, then days later I found out that he had married the so called room mate just months after we had been dating.

Therefore, our whole relationship was a lie and their marriage was built on lies. So, I'm wondering if I should tell her because I have heard he is up to his old tricks and as a woman I wouldnt wish anything bad on the other woman no matter who she is. He has now posted on facebook that he is married and has been for almost 2 years.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (29 June 2010):

No. Don't do a thing. You tell her, and guess who she will blame. You. No one else. Not her husband. Just you. Say nothing, cut him out of your life and move on.

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A female reader, babygirl17 United States +, writes (29 June 2010):

if i were u i would tell her i would want to know if i was my boyfriend was cheating and i think you would to. so put urself into her shoes. just tell her you just found out that he was married to her and he told he was only living with a room mate im sorry you had to go through that im sure you are hurt about that but if you think about it he was cheating on you too. i hope everything works out

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

Yes you should tell her, you already know you should, you might have done something wrong but by telling her your making things slightly better

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