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writes:Hey guys! So this isn't really a problem, I just need some advice. I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. It was apparent that he liked me. He kept saying he missed me, called me babe a lot, asked me to send him pics of me, etc. one day he even asked me if I had 'anything' for him...didn't realise what he meant at first. Now I realise I should have told him then. We talked a lot about every topic, tv shows...ex's...cool hangout places...our jobs..sex...everything! I began liking him.. I liked the feeling when i spoke to him. It's different from how it is with most guys I've liked in the past. So basically I've noticed he's not been talking so much like we used to since the past few days. When I say something, he replies vaguely and it pisses me off :( cause im really trying to keep the conversation alive but he acts like he doesnt care or he isn't even interested in reading my texts. I really want to tell him I like him. Last night I told him I think he's acting weird by replying so vaguely..so he asked me 'what?' and i said 'nothing'...cause I was pissed off! And now he wants to know why/what's wrong. Here's what I plan on saying "I like you and I'm trying to talk to you but recetly whenever I say anything you've been replying so vaguely and I feel like you don't wanna talk :(' This is the first time I'll be telling a guy I like him and I'm really scared! Typed out the text already but so scared to click send!! Please tell me if what I want to say is okay or should I change something? If you were the guy how would you probably respond?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 He misses you? How could he miss you if you don’t spend TIME together… he may like talking to you but how can he miss something he’s never had?
He’s asked for pictures? What KIND of pictures… nudes? NOT cool… regular shots.. well he must have some if you started talking to him… doesn’t he have them on Facebook???
I call my girlfriends babe… I call men I work with darling… BFD… it means NOTHING that he calls you babe…
In the beginning of anything new we are infatuated and we want to spend as much time as we can with that thing.. be it a new video game or a new person…. Once the newness wears off, the item is put where we slot it in our lives forever… sometime we keep it around and play with it and sometimes it ends up on the shelf… in the case of people it sounds like he’s figured out where you slot in his life…
DO not text him with something important.
Call him say… can we go get a drink and talk.. and go for coffee or something… and tell him how you feel…
Then sit back and see what happens..
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reader, oldbag +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Hi
This isnt a relationship, hes just some guy you talk to or text. I assume he has never asked to meet up so no, why bother telling him you like him. You dont know enough.How can he miss you when he hasnt spent time with you.Stop sending texts and pics too. See if he arranges a date to meet you, you could ask him to meet, but only ask once.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Give him a call and ask him out. You need to be direct and open with him. I think you are being vague, so he is also being vague in return. Treat him like you would want to be treated and go with it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 June 2012):
 Who not ask him out? TRY and go on a date/outing. I think conducting a courtship/semi relationship via text is ridiculous. But, then again I'm old and old fashioned. I just don't believe you can really know a person though texting. And there is SUCH a big chance of mistaken what was written, drama over nothing.
Don't cheapen it by texting that you like him. Show him. (and by that I mean that you WANT to spend time WITH him, not sexy pictures or sex.... TAKE your time to GET TO KNOW him.. in person)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Call him and tell him instead :)
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