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writes:I am 27 divorced but was married for 5 years.OK this may sound very shallow but its reality!!I have this boyfriend who I like very much but that is as far as it goes on the emotional front. I have been seeing him for 5 months but do not see a future at all, I want to finish it but the sex is absolutely Amazing it is so incredible what he does to me, I am left an absolute jibbering wreck after sex!!!!I have had a number of good sexual relationships over the years but have not experienced anything like this before and am afraid once he is gone, so is the sex!! Am I normal? what should I do....Sarah x GY
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Hi,
If you are able to have sex without developing feelings for him then I really cant see the problem. It sounds like you are having fun.
However, at some stage you will want to commit yourself to someone, so I guess this relationship has a shelf life. Only you can tell how long you can go like this before you want something more substantive.
Another problem I hope doesnt arise, you may start comparing all future partners to your current one. Will sex ever be able to match what you have here? Beware of this as you may pass up some good opportunities in the future.
Is sex really that good with this guy? Perhaps your previous partners just were'nt that good in bed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): The same thing happened to me.I stayed with him for the sex, but at things progressed the lack of things in common started showing, and we werent getting on. Then eventually he stopped trying sex wise, and he annoyed me so much that I wasnt interested in sex with him anyway! I think if you BOTH can leave things light, then there is no harm in just having the sex in common. You might need to have this conversation with him though, just in case he thinks things are deeper than they are so to speak. But you are normal! For the record, I ended it with the guy and have recently met someone else. The sex is even better, which I didnt think possible! We have less of an emotional connection but slowly its growing and I want to shag him all the time he he. Good luck x
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reader, hello1 +, writes (15 January 2008):
 You could stay with him till you meet another bloke? Thats what I would do if I was you
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Why do you not see a future with this guy? Is it because you were previously married? You say you like him and from how you describe your love life everything sounds great, Maybe you are putting up a barrier so you don't fall for him? I don't know, i would imagine you are wary and that would be understandable after going through divorce.
Maybe you should just give yourself time, unless this guy is totally wrong for you or has hurt you, you have nothing to lose from seeing how the relationship develops.
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