Should I just stay cool with my friend's situation?

A male age 36-40, *2570v writes:

Hey I need some help. I've never done this before but I've never been in this of type if situation. In the start of this year me and my ex broke up after 6 years but out of last fours years we were extremely unhappy even tho she says she was we weren't but way stayed together for my daughter. Well my best and closest friend was in the picture as well. We actually started off dating but decided to be friends and we came the best of friends but we still had so much feelings for one another but things always prevented from going further and we actually have always been there for one another and i will admit we have kissed and messed around since we broke up but no more than that till recently. She had also got out of a four year relationship a little before me and as soon me my ex broke up immediately we started to have sex and hang around each other a lot and it felt right but a couple months a ago we both decided to take things slow she didn't feel right getting with right I got of my relationship she didn't want to be in the middle of my drama especially that now I'm going through custody battles just to see my daughter and she also feels my ex is just trying to make my life miserable intentionally and she does not want more stress from that. So we remained the same even tho we discussed it but then she started telling get ex is calling everyday saying he's sorry for everything he did to her by cheating and completely leaving her alone when she needed somebody. She tells he texts her everyday saying "I love you still" and other stuff as well and she tells it annoys her but she feels bad because he had done so much for her when she was at her low times so they remained friends. But now things just got more complicated she and her son have been staying with a friend for the past year but a storm came and blew her room off and all of her things got ruined and she was contemplating where to go of coarse I offered but she doesn't want to get in the middle of drama she says it still to recent and believes my ex will do something just to make her life miserable. So her ex offered his house so she can stay and told her that he's just trying to be good friend even tho he still texts all that other stuff but her dad offered for and her son to stay but things didn't work out so shes back at her friends and now she's made the decision to go live with her ex and she tells me "I don't him in that way right now" or " I'm not interested in being in a relationship I just want focus on getting a job and going back and taking care of my son" so that's where I'm at now she leaves in couple of days to another city to live with her ex and I'm just sad because I know there's a chance those old feeling they can spark but she does have to come every other weekend to drop off her son with his real dad and she ll stay the weekend me I also want to note I have cool throughout all of this I haven't forced her to anything she doesn't want to but just been supportive throughout everything because I do love her a lot and she's my best friend but in afraid of the possibilities that could so somebody HELP!!!!!

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