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writes:My boyfriend of 2 years is increasingly emotionally distant. I am one that needs bonding time, and he is a robot. He prefers to spend his time with video games and other electronics, rather than with me.I have told him countless times that this really bothers me. I am considering finally walking away because we fight so much about it. He works a lot, and he goes to school too, which is why I have no problem when he has "his" time, but he rarely reciprocates by spending time with me. What would be the best way to get the point across that I am fed up? Is there hope of anything actually changing? What would be good ways of getting him to get off the computer? Should I just cut my losses? I'm so lost in what to do. I really love him, and the good times that we have are really good, but they are so few and far between now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): It looks like you're just an extra in your bf's life. Time to move on...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 If you told him countless times and nothing ever changed, either he is deaf or he does not want to change.
Cut your losses.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 March 2011):
There's a question in this paragraph that answers itself.
"Is there hope of anything actually changing?"
No, there's not. Firstly, you've asked countless times for him to change things, and nothing has happened at all. Secondly, you're forgetting the big rule about people, which is "they will not change for anyone but themselves.".
He won't change, because he doesn't want to change. And nothing on earth can beat that mindset. Leave him, find a guy who isn't so into a computer screen.
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