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writes:About 6 months ago i met this really great girl through the internet. We met on a dating site, but we were there just to find people to chat with (wasn't strictly at dating site) because we had both just come to terms with our sexuality. Anyways over the 6 months we have become really close, we trust each other, we miss each other when we dont chat, we really just get along well. The problem is I love her. She lives 16 hours away from me, we have not met, but we have talked on the phone for hours, been on webcam for hours and used to chat every night for 4 hours (she would put off going to sleep just to talk to me and then be really tired for work)...I know about her past, her bad relationship, who she likes now, what(who) she does all the time. It is killing me to have to keep hearing about the girls that she likes now. She refuses to have any relationship with anyone, and when i asked her if there was ever a chance of us she said she didnt know about the future, but then when i asked if she would ever like me as more than a friend she said no. I dont get it, the way we are to one another seems like we would work, despite what she says i think she likes me. She hasn't opened up to anyone like she has to me since her ex broke her heart. I dont know what to do anymore. Should i cut all ties with her or keep her in my life and hope for something? I cant imagine my life without her, which is big for me because i dont even think that about most of my friends (i could careless who sticks around). She is the first girl that i have liked that isn't straight. She treats me so differently then anyone i know. I can be myself around her. I am dying on the inside, i love her so much, i have never cried over anyone the way that i did when she said she didnt like me as more than a friend. Few people around me know how much i like her, but they all agree that i am not just crushing on her, and that i truly do love her. Its a big step, i have never felt this way about anyone, but i dont know what i should do about the future, include her or not?
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reader, lotsofgiggles123  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 i think you should try tell her how you feel and if she does not she is the one who is missing out and i know it will hurt if she says no but do not worry just relax if she does say she does not
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe does know how much i like her. I havent actually said the love word because i know how she feels about it and where she stands when it comes to relationships. I meant to add that when i say have her in my future i mean even if its just as a friend. She has had such an effect on me, she helped me come out, she had made me more confident, she has basically made me learn things about myself that no one has ever tried to challenge me about before. Its sappy to say, but she has truly made me a better person. A day that i dont talk to her is like a day that i would rather have not went through. She is one of the only reason i smile anymore and talking to her is one of my biggest daily highlights...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): if you feel this strongly about her then you should tell her .
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 I'm sorry for your heartbreak. It is very clear that you do love her, and you think she is your great chance.
However, she's been very clear: she will never see you as anything but a friend. I think you should not include her in your future.
My heart is with you.
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