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writes:There's someone who i really like at my college. The first time i saw his face there was this instant attraction, and finally after a few weeks we began talking and are now pretty good friends. He does know how i feel about him because i told him (drunkenly) back in October last year, and i think he must still suspect that i like him because i show all the signs (without even realising) I try to play it cool, so that i don't seem too desperate but it doesn't seem to be getting me anywhere! I'm not sure whether he rejected me before though, because i never really asked him out. I told him i had feelings for him and hoped it wouldnt affect our friendship and we could stay friends and things wouldnt become awkward now that he knew. Then he returned by saying he didnt wanna risk the friendship and so on. So it may seem to him that i didnt want a relationship? and that he had no other choice but to agree that we'd be better off friends?Anyway, i really want to be with him. There's this party we're both invited to coming up this week! And i'm unsure how to behave around him; Should i flirt and Spend the whole night with him? or stay with some other friends for the night in hope that he'll come over for a chat? I just wanna know if he feels the same way, how is the best way to find out? I feel as though I've been holding back too much, I want to let myself go and show how I truly feel!Any advice? Thank you for reading :)
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 guys love the chase and when they know a girl like them first there is no excitement for them. So now you have to try to stop crushing on him. When he realize that you lost interest he might then wonder what happen and start coming your way. It sounds like a game, but dating is a silly little game. Just focus more attention on yourself.
Look hot, confident, sexy. Be so irresistable that he can't help but notice you. and if he doesn't fall for you, then maybe another guy,..hotter and nicer will.
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Hey, I think you should focus on the party you're invited. Firstly, i'd suggest you to buy new clothes, something that you would look sexy, but not slutty. Make sure that you'll look great, but don't make it too obvious. Make him that you'll notice you as a potencial girlfriend not just as friend. Secondly, don't drink too much that you wouldn't accidentaly stuck with someone else or act like a fool. I was in the same situation and belive me it's not really good feeling next morning at all. :) Thirdly, be friendly and kind to everybody, not just him. Guys love that. Try to play hard to get, but still be open and friendly. Talk with him about everything. After few drinks you'll become more open and confident. You'll see if it would come to the moment when you can tell him that you like him. If you think it's not good moment, don't say that. Use your body language and "accidentally" touch his back or arm. Of course, be flirty, but not too flirty. Be open, but be hard to get too :) I hope you know what i mean.In my opinion is what he said that he "don't want to risk your friendship" bullshit, because you're not best friends. Are you? I got feeling that you're not because you mentioned that you will might hope that he would come and talk to you. Probably he just didn't see you as potencial girlfriend or lover, so that's why he said that. Anyway, i hope you'll have good time on party. With or without being with him.Good luck!
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