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writes:I met my X of 4years, and in his drunken stupor, he told me I am the woman he loves. {I still miss him and think about him everyday of my life} The next day he invited me to visit him at his place, and we ended up having sex.we both did not talk about our past, present and future....we just did a lot of chit chat.and i left.we havent communicated since then. D i leave the situation as is?i really dont have the energy to talk about our past..but i think i can make the future for me and him a beautiful one.However, in the chit chat. he seems to be with no vision, goals, or direction.do i try and make us work, or i just let it go{which is hard}.by the way..he didnt seem in the mood of talking about anything. which am sure its because his as afraid as i am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): Actually he was not afraid OP, you were a casual hook up, nothing more. If you can't talk about your past then how are you supposed to resolve your past issues? You can't.You were a casual hook up, that's why he didn't want to talk about anything serious with you, that's why he's made no plans to see you again. He was horny and you were an easy lay.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2011):
Time to wake up - he's an ex for a reason, and even when you two had sex, nothing came of it. Let him go.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (12 April 2011):
Well, I don't know why you two split up but I am sure it had a reason.
You were able to live without him for 4 years. And the only time he told you that you are the woman he loves seems to have been under the influence of alcohol. A lot of people say a lot of stuff when they're drunk. But I don't think a relationship should be started on words that are maybe spoken out of sentimentality or drunkenness.
Doesn't sound like either of you needed one another for a long time. So why start it all over now?
If the reason for your breakup hasn't changed, then I think you should let go.
You can't change a man who doesn't want to change anyways.
You can't rescue him and you can't save a relationship on your own.
Be careful. If you don't learn to let go you might be hurting even more later.
But I don't know a lot about you both. Just, well, just really think this over and don't rush.
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (12 April 2011):
okay so ask yourself this. why did you 2 break up? if he hasn't changed then whats going to make it better? just because you try your hardest doesn't mean the other will. a relationship is like dancing. there is one person who may take the lead but if the other is not willing or able to follow through with the moves then its going to be like you dancing by yourself
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