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writes:Ok so yesterday was my high school graduation and after the ceremony all the schools in my town host a graduation party so at this party my guy friend "B" and I were playing ping-pong with like 3 other friends and then while we were playing he backed up and pinned me to the wall with his back facing my front, and my back against the wall so I was stuck. He played the game like that for about 20 mins and the whole time I was really turned on because he smelled really freakying good and he has a fairly muscular back that was pressed completely against my chest. Now I dont know what to do cause I have kinda liked him for a while but he has a Gf. Then again she lives a ways away and is moving away for college soon too where as he is staying here. What should I do? Also some addition facts: B dated a close friend of mine like 2 years ago. and last year he offered to be my FWB and take my virginity. I only said no because of the previous relationship he had with my friend but I had and long serious discussion with her after I had Rejected him and she said it was fine to persue him if I wanted but then he got a Gf by then. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2014): His poor gf...
Should you go after him? Imagine YOU were his girlfriend, but it's OK for him to mess around and act like a borderline sex pest, because you live away from him?
It's also ok because he does turn you on incredibly though... And he HAS admitted he's happy to use you as a sex buddy, WHILE he strings his poor "gf" along....
Come on, seriously? You may not be that experienced but you're not a little kid, have you not developed any principles, or a conscience??
Just save your dignity, and others some heartache and leave it well alone... You WILL regret it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 May 2014):
 I would not go after him... he will hurt you... he has made it clear that he wants sex from you nothing more... don't be his toy...
move along...
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (23 May 2014):
 Avoid this guy!
He has a girlfriend yet he flirts with you and rubbed his body against yours. That may be flattering for you but its tells us a lot about him and the way he treats women...he is not bothered about disrespecting and deceive his GF and has already made it clear he just wants to use you for sex.
He offered you the "opportunity" to be his FWB and to take your virginity. That was not for your benefit but for his. He just wanted you for sex, wanted to boast he has screwed a virgin and made it clear that he is a player and a user.
Don't get involved with other womens boyfriends. Neither should you trust someone who has a GF and behaves that way towards you. It might be flattering, he may smell good and have a great body, but he is just looking for a sexual conquest.
Even if he splits up with his GF, there is no point trying to get together with this lad unless you just want to be used for sex. This guy isn't your "friend" he is a user. Please don't make the mistake of thinking if you sleep with him he will fall for you and become your BF....he wont!
Mark
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2014):
 Rather simple, this is like math, two plus two makes four.
So : last year he was single but he asked you to be his FWB. Not his GF. So, to him you are good enough for sex, but not good enough for dating.
It's not even that he is not ready for a relationship, or does not believe in relationships or all that jazz. First thing he does, as soon as he finds someone he likes, it is to make her GF.
Ergo, he does not have a problem with being a BF, he has a problem with being YOUR BF.
So, the logical answer would be, don't even go there, if you want more than a quick fuck. First, because he HAS a GF, no matter where the GF lives, he's taken,- what would you feel , what DO you feel about girls poaching into your territory because they tink your man smells good ?.
Second, the guy wanted to have sex with you, and of course if you give him the signal, he probably will still want to have sex with you, I bet that physically you haven't drastically changed since last year.
So, what do you get ? what's in it for you ? .. If you are content with ... getting to know his front , not just his back, you can get that ( gliding over the fact that would not be a very honourable action, anyway ) .
If you think that just by offering him sex, you'll make him change his mind, and will make the grade from FWB material to his new Gf... uhm, not very likely at all, you'd better keep playing ping pong, you get more chances at winning at that.
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