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writes:Ok. Here we go. I worked with this guy for more than a year. Nothing ever happened. We used to flirt but just as a joke. I always knew he was married and never thought he could feel something for me. After a party we kissed and it was really unexpectable. He said he always liked me, since the first day he saw me. He says he wants me but he feels guilty. We haven't done anything yet but I can feel we will. We can't help. What should I do? I can't stop thinking about him. He said to a common friend he never felt this way before. It's not even for sex, he just want to be around me. And I feel the same way.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Sure, I'd go ahead with it.
On one condition: you brace yourself for the shittiest ride of your life. In love with a married man who "loves you" but would never leave his wife. You'll be waiting for quite a few heart-wrenching years before you finally realise that you've got the raw end of the deal and you're getting screwed emotionally.
The only exception is if he's in an open marriage and his wife gives you explicit permission to have sex with her husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You have to ask yourself whether you want something casual or commitment, and how you would feel if you were left alone on special occasions while he spent time with his wife, and got kept out of his life, not meeting each others' friends and families.
You also may want to think about how hurt his wife would be if he had an affair with you.
Is he worth it, or are there other fish in the sea?
They all sex it's not the sex, but let's be honest, flirting is the first stage of sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): oh - well that makes it so much better!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's wife is not expecting a child. They've been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Q1605 has said it all!! I would put money on the wife being pregnant too!! Tell you what...here's a novel idea, why don;t you tell him if he likes what he sees he can have it...once the divorce is finalised. See what he does then.Also...you say you "can't help it"...that is a crock and a big fat excuse for both of you behaving selfishly. Why not call a spade a spade!!
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