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ItsASecret
writes:Ok so I have known this guy for about 5 months. We started out as good friends but began dating and dated for about 2 of those months. We had a long distance relationship with the agreement not to date anyone else out of respect, and b/c we didn't have a desire to see anyone else. Not long ago, I recieved an email from the woman I thought was his "ex" asking me if there was anything going on with us b/c they had been together for over a year. He had always told me she was crazy and too jealous and thats why they broke up. He says he has been keeping her around in case.He says he's in love with me and I feel really strongly about him, I want to forgive him, but don't know if I should.
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reader, hlskitten  + ♥, writes (23 February 2008):
 Blimey he's not even trying to hide it! Someone that cant stand being alone, is bad partner material. Basically, he's in relationships for the wrong reason.
It also says a lot about this other womans intelligance, if she is happy to be waiting in the wings to be plan B.
I personally wouldn't be taking any of that as a compliment if i were in your shoes, even though he's trying to put it across as one! Would much rather be with someone because they liked being with me, not because they cant cope being single.
C xxxxx
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reader, ItsASecret +, writes (23 February 2008):
ItsASecret is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe says he was keeping her around incase things at his home didn't work out b/c she would always take him in and well I don't have the room for him to be staying with me. BASICALLY he was keeping both of us around incase a r-ship didn't work out w/ the one, he always had a back up plan. He says I'm the one he wants to be with, but he just doesn't wanna be alone... that's really the bottom line.
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (22 February 2008):
I agree. No smoke without fire in this situation by the looks of it.Some people hate being single and will always like to have someone on the back burner 'just in case'Drives me nuts thats does, its weakness. grrrrrrrrrrC xxxxx
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (22 February 2008):
 He's keeping her around in case of what, that you two don't work out? Long distance relationships are never easy and wandering if he's spending nights with his ex will drive you insane! I suggest you end it while the relationship is still fresh, after all five months isn't a very long time, especially if you haven't spent a lot of them in each other's presence.
Bear in mind that if they were not together, how would she have been able to get hold of you???
He's a lier. I say forgive but drop him!
God bless &good luck!
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