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30-35,
*YCRN2010
writes:I was in Nursing School, my husband's arguements stressed so much while I was in school that I failed and need to restart program. My husband says, that my dream "becoming a nurse" has doomed my marriage. Now I don't know if I should continue to pursue my dream in becoming a nurse, or just giving it all up to save my marriage? (He felt I wasn't spending any time with him, I tried to explain that the work was intense and I really needed to study) Reply to this Question
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reader, NYCRN2010 +, writes (23 February 2010):
NYCRN2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWould like to thank everyone who took time out to respond to my concern. I greatly appreciate all opinions. I think I will continue to pursue my dream!!!!
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reader, boo22  +, writes (22 February 2010):
 Hi there, My advice is pursue your dream or you'll end up bitter and resentful and unhappy, while his life carries on as normal.
You should be able to make time for your husband and study.
He's not thinking about you, just himself.
good luck x
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (22 February 2010):
 I don't know why you can't pursue your dream and strenthen your marriage. It doesn't have to be a this or that situation. You two really need counseling. If you don't have any children, make sure that you are using protection. Right now would be a horrible time to add a baby into the mix.
But if you must choose, live your dream. You will someday find a man that will enable you to grow as a wife and as a person.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): You should always pursue your dreams. We never know what life will bring. Becoming a nurse could lead you into a good career path. I have a couple of friends who did nursing when they were young and now they are senior nurse managers on good salaries with years of experience and one of them is involved in training student nurses also. How would you feel if, ten years later, you husband left you and you had no job, no career or had given up the career you wanted. My mother gave up a flourishing nursing career to look after her alcoholic father and then she got married and had us and for many years she was sad about it. She eventually made her peace with it and found other interests and passions and who knows - maybe it was meant to be that way. But you are young with nothing really stopping you. You and your husband, if you have a good relationship, should be able to work together to sort this out. If you decided that your marriage is your priority and that you cannot fit a career in with it, then be sure that this marriage will last and give you everything that you need. Personally, I would tell my husband I love him but that I want to follow my dream and this changes nothing between us. Also point out the long term benefits and he might see your way of thinking. Could you train part time perhaps also? If you got a training place near to home it shouldn't cause too many problems. Good luck whatever you decide to do :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 February 2010):
You're too young to give up on your dream. One way or another you need to make time for your husband. You need to. But don't give up on your dream because if you do you will resent your husband for it.
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