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writes:I'm in a quasi-relationship and I'm unsure if i should continue pursuing this girl or pull the plug altogether. I've been seeing this girl, but it got off to a rocky start. We had 2 dates, and then on the 3rd she said that she wasn't ready for a relationship, although we've been seeing eachother at least once a week since then. She dates other men simultaneously, and although i'm not technically her boyfriend yet, it feels like an injustice to me because I like her very much and even if i'm not her official boyfriend yet, I'd like her to date me exclusively and not have me feel like a player in a game. Last time i saw her everthing was going well until she reminded me that I wasn't her boyfriend, which i sure feel like until she reminds me that I'm not. It bothers me because it's like somebody telling me that we're "just friends." Yet her interest in me is like a bipolar personality; Sometimes we go out and she says that she had a lot of fun and wants to see me again, and other times she spends a long time saying that she's not ready for a relationship and that she's playing the "dating game."I keep flirting with the idea of telling her that we shouldn't see eachother anymore because it's been causing me a significant amount of grief, but I don't want to just give up and run away like i did with my last relationship. We haven't been dating for very long. Under a month. it's possible that I'm just over-zealous and needlessly obsessive. It's also possible that I may be trying to progress the relationship too quickly for her. My friends keep telling me that I deserve more, I have no idea why. I don't know what makes me so special that I'm above her. I'm mystified by this sense of entitlement that people keep bestowing upon me. It's been a long time since I've had a girl come within 3 feet of me, and I really want to have a healthy, stable relationship, but at the moment this isn't it. I can't make up my mind because I'm entertaining both sides of the debate. So, to reiterate my dilemma: Should I continue pursuing this girl or pull the plug?
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (3 February 2011):
 I agree, move away! She is toying with you and just wanting your attention to play with. Her interest is rather selfish than genuine. Think the other way around: if there was a girl you really liked and made a move on you...would you loose this chance and date other girls at the same time? Don't think so. Keep distance! Best of luck!
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reader, Leodjoneluv +, writes (3 February 2011):
 you do deserve more. she does not want to be with you. Dont give her so much power. There are a lot of beautiful young ladies out there. Find a women who will love and like you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Pull the plug. She priming you to be her doormat. She's a gamer doing the high school immature girl thing. Tell her goodbye and move forward to a mature young lady who has a stable head on her shoulders. That one is wanting to sleep around. You don't need that kinda trouble.
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