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writes:Hi I am 47 years old, in reasonable good shape, as is my partener of 46, whom I adore. But the problem is this she been rejecting my advances, for nearly a year now. But she does still seem to enjoy making love, about 3 times a month.She says it is not me, but her, and that she loves me.But a man's patience can only last so long. Should I just put her on the spot and ask her to get help? Or just be honest and to hell with the outcome? I feel i can not continue with a situattion that's making me feel unwanted and used Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): I know it must be difficult for you but it does sound to me like she may be going thru the menopause. I would sit down with her, not in a confrontational way, and talk to her, you obviously love her and she's told you she loves you so this should be something you work thru together. you didn't mention how long you are together but I'm guessing this has been a long(ish) term relationship. A little patience and understanding will stand to you in the long run. If you tell her in a confrontational way you will use her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Have you considered that she might be going through menopause?
http://www.thirdage.com/menopause
Confrontation is never the answer man, if she's going through menopause which sounds likely then patience is what you need. You need to do some research on menopause and try and gain a bit of understanding on it.
By all means talk to her and ask her to address your concerns do not make demands or anything like that. Try and find out where it stems and see if there may be a way to resolve this but if it's menopause then she'll have to speak to a doctor about the possibility of HRT.
Menopause is a huge and drastic change perhaps you need to educate yourself on it.
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