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writes:My friend at least I thought they were and I got into a huge fight. We kind of had crushes on each other but things got really bad between us. I really made him mad. I tried apologizing and giving him space.The thing that hurt me is that after I tried apologizing and talking to him he posted things about me online on this other girl's page and called me crazy and a freak after he found out I had lied to him. I feel sad, hurt, and embarrassed that he would actually do that... I mean he had to know I will see it right?I'm thinking about confronting them about this, letting them know I saw and read it and basically saying how I think it's pretty low of them etc. What do you think?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 I'd let it go. Don't give him the satisfaction to know that his comments cut so deep.
Also, tbh, I'd say , it depends from the provocation- the gravity of the lie ,in this case.
If you have lied about something relevant, i.e. something knowing which he would not have pursued or continued your acquantaintance, he may be justified in being and staying mad ( also if not in defiling you over a public network, because that's not gentlemanly anyway ).
Like, suppose that you have met, either through the social network or in real life, and you have told him you are single when you are married, or that you are chiildless when you are a single mother of 3 , or that you have a good job when you are in fact unemployed....summing up, if you have grossly misrepresented the reality of facts just to reel him in, well, I guess everybody would be be furious too .
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (28 June 2011):
If you ignore someone like this, it will more than likely come across that you have better things to be doing than reading facebook so to them you probably didn't even read it.You'll have basically risen above their level. They posted to get a reaction from you, but instead of reacting by responding, you've ignored them. It's the best way to deal with such behaviour. Trust me, if anyone goes about posting stuff about other people online they're not going to end up with any proper friends. Invest in your true friends in real life and ignore facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): If it's facebook and this is a public comment, just 'like' those comments.Simple as that really, it will mess with their heads, it will show that you couldn't care less and that will be the issue done and dusted.OP you're young, you will fall out with people many more times in your life and plenty of people will try to get to you. Don't ever respond, let them do their thing and let them piss off. Angrily responding to peoples bullshit will only make you feel worse because it will start a fight but if you're the kind of person that's just going to be pissed off until you have your say, then just wait. Think of something completely smart ass to say and post that.People love an angry and frustrated response, that's why he posted it publicly so you could see. So do the opposite and say "thanks buddy ^_^" or something equally as smartass. But never ever respond by trying to argue your side of things, it will just make you look worse, always try to gain the upper hand by pissing the other person off. Don't directly attack them, don't insult them, a non-chalant smartass answer is always best.Douchey mcmahon"anonymous is a crazy bitch a complete freak, I dunno why I was friends with her"-anonymous like thisanonymous "aww gee thanks lover xoxo ^_^"
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (28 June 2011):
 dont confront them while your angry because then they will know its bothered you and will proberly make more comments. aproach them calmly and just say why did you need to put the comments you did? i saw them. i didnt write anything nasty about you did i. its a little bit immature to be honest. and just leave it at that.x
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