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writes:okay so..here it is under an unusual planetary alignment i meet the most amazing man it was strange i felt a deep connection with him when we shook hands i will never forget gazing into his eyes when i met him.i could not describe the power i felt it was strange. The problem was he was taken so I did not make a move and I was taken at the time with an emotionally abusive boyfriend. The time before i meet him i was withdrawn, depressed, had no friends, had cut off contact with my family due to my boyfriends control.All my boyfriend did was have me work all the time on his stuff not allowing me time to work on my stuff as well he financially was draining me also not kissing me or having romantic contact with me. When i met this new guy I started thinking about him a lot and having fantases about him that i feel i would recreate with him in real life. I felt confortable around him like i could tell him anything even though we did not spend time alone) i was no longer depressed and i was strong enough to end the relationship b/c i realized i deserved better.The guy I had the connection with even noticed how my boyfriend was treating me as he was ordering me around etc and commented on it in front of him. While working on this long project my boyfriend at the time was not doing what he said, trying to pry into his personal life, bothering the guy with business proposals and taking jabs behind his back, and to his friends. Which my boyfriend at the time did to everyone he always bad mouthed them he even was putting me down all the time. my conversations were being monitored. the guy i had the connection with was really angry at my boyfriend as well my boyfriend was saying stuff about him all the time rude stuff and making up stuff-he did not even know the guy that well. During this time the guy i felt the connection with his relationship was ending. he is now single so am I. not a day goes by that I don't think about him.i even met his family and had a connection with them when in their presence i felt a warm blanket of light around me. What should i do? i want to call him and tell him how i feel should I? what do you think i have never called him before or had contact with him other than on the project.i feel like he may have liked me back he would pay attention to me and look at me or is this just wishful thinking. I'm just afraid b/c I have been rejected before and just came out of an abusive relationship.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Contact him. You've got nothing to lose. Ask him if he fancies going for a drink sometime, and see how it goes from there.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Hi, What I dont see coming out in the information you gave is that this guy has not expressed or shown any interest in you?
I am not syaing he is not interested in you, but you do risk this being a one sided attraction. Does this gut know you are single, if so has he indicated that he would like to pursue something with you?
If you feel you have nothing to lose, I would start off by asking him to coffee as a friend and you can then take it from there.
Dont go in for the full kill as you need to test the waters to see if he sees you as someone he wants to date. Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): You risk rejection but If you don't find a way to tell him how you feel then you are still going to be thinking about it years from now.
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