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writes:This might seem a little sad/juvenile, but there's this girl that I've had on my mind A LOT lately. We dated for about two-months right at the start of the year, although we were hardly "serious" together. We mostly hung out, watched movies and fooled around. So I guess we had a very superficial/casual relationship. But I had a lot of fun with her (not just in that way!) We got along well, had a lot in common. But the thing is we were both just fresh out of heavy relationships and so knew we weren't really going anywhere and I think we were both just looking for a bit of companionship and we gradually fell out of contact.I used to work abroad back then too, so I'd go away for a few weeks at a time, but one time when I came back I just didn't get around to seeing her and she stopped talking to me so I figured it was over.But recently, I don't know, I've not been able to stop thinking about her. I still have her on my facebook list, but we never really talk and we haven't texted/called since like March or April.For some reason I feel guilty though. I feel like if I call her up or start randomly talking to her she might take it as me just wanting some kind of "booty call."Is there a way I can broach this situation in a classy way that says "I've been thinking about you and would like to spend more time with you again" without sounding like I'm really saying "I want sex"?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 Back in the olden days, you just picked up the phone and crossed your fingers ans asked,"Hey I see there's a movie playing that I thought you'd be interested in seeing, if you'd like to see it how about I pick you up at 8:00pm, we grab a quick bite to eat then go see the movie?" If she says no or has other things to do then wait a week and try again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): Why don't you send her a text saying 'hey (insert name) its been quite a while,how have you been?thought I'd just check on you..:)
That's it,let her reply,start talking ask her about work,what she's up to..then you can ask her out for dinner or coffe or lunch..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): The ground work is there OP, you had some time to get to know her already so just get back in contact with her the way you would anyone else.
I wouldn't jump straight into asking her out without re-establishing contact again to be honest. Better to get a gauge of how open she is to reigniting contact again before you start suggesting you go out on dates.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 Ask her on a date, someplace public, so she knows it's a date, not a chance to get into her pants. If she says yes and you take her on a date, end with a kiss not with sex. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): 'I've been thinking about you and would like to spend more time with you again' sounds pretty classy, honest and courteous to me! :)
You've said you don't just want sex, so don't mention sex. What you said about wanting to spend more time with her is true and it sounds like a perfectly good way to put it to me.
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