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writes:i have a crush on this girl. Through her i get to know that the next boyfriend she have should at least be a christian. She dont know that i have a crush on her yet. I am a free thinker. To have a chance to be her boyfriend, something inside me is telling me to join my friend's chruch group. In another word, to be a christian.Is this a wise move? Should i proceed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Don't start a relationship out with a lie.
Be you! who you are! and IF SHE IS A REAL CHRISTIAN she should accept who you are anyway...there's your first question about christianity if yu were to join.... :)and in time you may well want to but do it for the right reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Definitely not. You either stand on who you are or you lie.
Regardless, she'll know what you stand for sooner or later.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Terrible idea. If you're not religious, why subject yourself to a life of hypocrisy and deceive the Church and this girl inthe process? If she can't accept you for who you are, what's the point anyway?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 August 2010):
 You should only become a Christian if you are feeling a desire to become one. You shouldn't go through the motions just for a girl, because religion is a lifetime commitment that requires a firm belief and adherence to the faith. Eventually, both of you would resent each other. You'd resent her because of the forced commitment to something you don't believe in, and she'd resent you because you didn't hold a passion for the same thing she does.
The only thing to do is BE YOURSELF. If you have a crush on her, don't let religion stand in your way, but you need to be true to your beliefs. That's the only thing that will stand the test of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): NOt unless you're prepared to live this lie for a really long time... and then have it blow up in your face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): If you don't believe in God, don't start going to church. Not only is it dishonest, but she will find out sooner or later that you are only going to look good to her, and that will probably make her really upset. If she wants her future boyfriend to believe in God as she does, she probably takes her religion very seriously.
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