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writes:I'm 30 and my be is 48 we have been together 18 months. Everything is magical. However he still speaks to ibis ex wife. They were together over 20 years have no kids but they talk on the phone text etc. He says he doesn't have feelings and she is married to another guy. I'm jealous of the contact... They have decreased contact but... I'm wondering if he still lov a ex. They have been divorced three yearsWhat are your opinions on continuing contact with ex.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (7 November 2016):
If I were his ex wife I would be asking about you both on text and saying hey let her know I said hello something like that .. 20 years is along time to have been with someone and it's more than possible to walk away but still be friends with no more in it .. she was there before you ..That's hard to accept but true .if this was a new female he was keeping or wanting contact with ..If I were in your shoes that would worry me more .. but she is the past .. your the future ..
Be friendly ask about her .. say how is such today ... See how he reacts ..take an interest nicely in her .. ask to met her someday for lunch or something .
Everyone has a past .. I know I find it hard to drop people just because other people feel a little insecure .. He should be open enough so you don't feel like that for him to do that you must let go of any insecurity at the minute unless he closes you down on these things .. If he does then he's not fully over her . And you can decide your next course of action .
My advice .. and opinion is this is just a friendship . He still has affection for her and that is nice thing ..
So chin up ..You don't have to be over friendly with her or her friend but by opening communication your gonna find out where you fit ..
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reader, Slippers +, writes (7 November 2016):
If I were his ex wife I would be asking about you both on text and saying hey let her know I said hello something like that .. 20 years is along time to have been with someone and it's more than possible to walk away but still be friends with no more in it .. she was there before you ..That's hard to accept but true .if this was a new female he was keeping
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2016):
 Am sure he does still care about her after all these years. It might just be friendship. If you are not comfortable though then be honest with him. If he refuses to stop then you need to ask yourself can you accept this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2016): It is possible for them to be friends. I wonder how her husband feels about their continued contact? Does your man make these calls only when you're not around? Do they meet up? 20 years is a long time to know someone though it's hard to fully move on and be in a new relationship when you still maintain emotional ties. There is no need to if there's no kids involved. It might be wise to find out about these 'conversations'.
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