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writes:I've posted previously about finding pictures of my bf and some other guy on my bf's spare phone that I needed to use, and came across that.. when my bf gave me the phone he commented saying enjoying snooping around where your nose doesn't belong.We have been dating since Dec '09 and these messages and pictures are from June '10 and I saw this in Sep '10 I assume that he did this once as there wasn't any further contact with him on his phone.I am hurt and feeling insecure coz he says he loves me and will never cheat on me because I am everything he has wanted (that's what he said)Should I approach him saying I saw it and ask if that was the first and last time? or should I just leave it as it was something that happened in June?It hurts because we have always been happy and yes we have our ups and downs.. but I would have never expected for him to do this with us. Perhaps he has done this in previous realtionships.. but now I feel insecure!Should I bring it to his attention?orShould I just keep quiet and pretend I never saw it as he might be cross that I put my nose where it doesn't belong, but it was not done purposefully. When you see another guys name on your partners phone that you don't know with bedroom talk is not nice to see.What should I do?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I think he has a lot of balls calling you out for "being nosey" if you are a couple. Most couples don't hide e-mails, phones and mail from each other. My husband wouldn't freak out if I answered his phone or scrolled through his pictures; probably because he hasn't got anything to hide!
If you are an official couple, and you are living together, I'd take his phone and stick it in the orange juice container. That would take care of those pictures, and he'd be out of commission until he got a new phone. lol. If you aren't living together, you have to accept that this does look like cheating - and you probably need to either sit him down and have a talk or just have a big ol' fight about this - 'cause couples that are 'together' don't date other people. Sorry for your pain, hun, hope things work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): I read both of your posts, and I would definitely confront him. From reading this site, it doesn't sound like this was the first time. When people hold back their sexuality I think they are going to keep doing stuff like this until they actually try it. It isn't like a habit that annoys you that he can stop. He wants to be with a guy or is curious about it at the very least. Either way its disrespectful to you, to do whatever hes doing behind your back
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