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writes:Hi. Thank you for reading. I am asking for helpful advice . I have no friends. I still live in the same town I grew up in central London. Secondary school was a really good time for me, I had many friends. Everyday I would travel to and from school with mates that lived in the same neighbourhood. Sometimes they would come over mine afterwards and eat and play, other times I would go to theirs. Typical teenager and I was happy.Now though I am really lonely. Come college time my close circle of secondary school mates gradually stopped talking to me and eventually cut me out of their lives. It was really heartbreaking especially when they wouldn't invite me out or return my calls. I became really anxious and depressed about this. A couple of times I would see them outside cinema when travelling passed on bus, so I knew they were close with each other. The hardest thing was the fact I didn't even know why! These guys were my best friends.I went to university without ever being in contact with any of them, and I found it so difficult to make new friends. I made some, but not something ever close. Now, roughly ten years after finishing school, I still don't have any close friends. Sure, I know people here and there, but no-one to really message, and I have no-one to message me or call me. I am really lonely I just wished I had that "hey bro" kind of mate. And yes I know it's not all what it seems when I see other people hanging with their mates but at least they go out on a Friday night. I have no-one to socialise with. It's clear that it's really difficult for me to make close friends now, and I do attribute it to this.Recently however, one of my then-secondary school mates recently added me on a social networking site for professionals. Should I accept them and endorse some skills? Should I also perhaps try and reconnect with other old secondary school mates? Or should I completely forget about them, once and for all.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 Suffering from anxiety and depression probably doesn't help your situation, but you need to look at life positively. Work out ways on how you can make friends. Join clubs? Go out to the pub and get chatting to people. Reconnect on social networking, ask your old friends would they like to meet for a drink? You need to put yourself out their and talk to people, be friendly and chatty and make an effort.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (25 April 2016):
 When I was a little boy at primary school I once complained to my mother that I had no friends, fully expecting her complete sympathy. She looked down at me and said: 'Well that's your fault'.
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