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writes:I can't seem to get over my ex. Over 4 1/2 years with my boyfriend I found out he had been cheating. I was pregnant at the time (we had tried for 3 years and all had resulted in miscarriages). He had been with her for 4 months and it was a long distant relationship. He was with me every night and we were together pretty much every night. He had 2 trips during that time I assume those were with her. (I found out who the girl was and told her what was going on.) She gave me the song and dance that she was in love with him and he told her that he never considered me his girlfriend. I was strong at the time and said you know what he is a lying, cheating bastard! And if you want him, you got him! To stay away from me and my baby. Well I was doing well and for some unknown reason I had a moment of weakness and was snooping on Facebook. She now is going by his last name. I looked at public records and there are no marriage records for him so I believe perhaps it is a front. It just seems implausible to me that after he admitted being with me at the time that you would marry someone in the first 9 months after one found out he was lying the entire time during your relationship. What was more disturbing is she has an 8 year old daughter who her first husband cheated on her. I thought I was over this. But it bugs me! It comes down to this.... He lied. He cheated. So why does he get a happily ever after? Help please!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (14 November 2010):
What they have doesn't sound like the makings of a happily ever after. Happily ever after isn't the marriage, it's the strong relationship. She's been cheated on, he's a cheater, and they both have kids from other relationships. If he does get a happily ever after with her, it'll be with a lot of hard work. And it's likely that he won't get that happily ever after, but that doesn't mean you'll see it. You won't see them fight or possibly break up, or see if one or the other cheats on each other.
We rarely see the really bad times other people have. Realize that they do happen though, and more often with the additionally baggage the 2 of them have. Just go out and try to make your happily ever after. And focus on your baby and whoever your future partner is.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 I agree with natasia... don't presume for a second that he's getting his "happily ever after".
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Natasia,
I hope so. The entire situation still gets me upset. I can't believe I am in this situation. The idea that he is taking care of a different child other than his own is more pain than I could ever think of. I just keep hoping karma is real!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 He doesn't get happily ever after, as presumably he is not with his child (your baby). That is a hole in his life that will never go away. He might not realise it now, but he will at some point.
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