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writes:Hey there,So I have this "problem" (4 a lack of better words), I'm confused about my boyfriend's best friend and men in general. So let me tell u all about it and if u can give me your opinion I'd b truly grateful.My boyfriend and I have been together 4 over 8 months now and we're ok, we fight often but that's due 2 my own issues, but anyway... A few of my friends have commented on how they think my boyfriends best friend has feelings 4me. The reason is the story I'm about 2 tell u.When my boyfriend and I started dating his best friend and I became friends but then he left the country for 5 months. We kept in contact and it wasn't long b4 he and a girl here started dating. Anyway, when he got back we went 4 coffee and I can't remember how we got on the topic but he said that he dreamt of us having sex and that he thought of us dating and that he had feelings 4me. I was totally shocked and told my boyfriend. But the more I thought of it the more I started feeling 4 him. The 1 night I decided 2 try speak 2 him about so that we could sort it out and move on with our current relationships. Anyway he freaked out at me and said some nasty things and stopped talking 2me. Then eventually after prefuse begging and appologising he started somewhat speaking 2me again. Then his girlfriend asked me 2 coffee 2 hear my side of the story and it turns out he didn't tell her the full story just that I have feelings 4 him. Anyway, he started phoning my boyfriend/me everyday when he knew we were 2gether 4 stupid things like fixing a ceiling fan, aswell as trying 2 make plans with my boyfriend when he knew we had plans, he even tried 2 get my boyfriend 2 ditch me on my bday!Anyway I got upset and told my boyfriend that this has 2 stop, so he sent his friend a text politely 2 back off and again he got angry and stopped talking 2 me as he did the last time. Now, a few weeks ago his girlfriend left him, then all of a sudden he started asking my boyfriend if my family hates him cos of what's happened and apparently he seemed truly concerned. He came out with us 2 weeks ago and we had it out but it didn't get nasty, he said stuff like if he didn't care he wouldn't b there and that he's always defended me. Now we're friends again as if nothing had ever happened. I've noticed that he looks at me a lot but he's never tried anything. So I'm confused, does he or doesn't he have feelings 4me? Pls help.Thanx a mil 4 taking time 2 read and reply(",)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx 4 your help. I do not have feelings 4 him, the only reason I'm so desperate 2 find out is cos this situation if it turns out that he does have feelings 4me could ruine my boyfriends frienship with him and I don't want that. So pls I would like as many ppls opinion on this as possible. Thanx again
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reader, ljhenhmla  +, writes (14 November 2010):
The true question is do you still have feeling for him?
it might be best to just stay away for him
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reader, PurityChild +, writes (14 November 2010):
 He has feelings for you, hints the way he is trying to ruin your relationship. I think you need to leave this guy alone all together because only thing it's going to do is mess up your relationship. Dont let anything or anybody come between you and your guy =) Hope this helps.
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