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writes:So this girl I've know for a couple of months has asked me to take her to the hospital now twice in a span of about 4 to 6 weeks. She'll kik me out of the blue telling me to take her but then apparently she turns her phone off because my messages get stuck on "S". Those of you who understand kik will get that I guess. Anyways, something doesn't seem right because when I asked her what was wrong the first time she told me something about a fever and when I said I was on my way she said "Not yet." I'm not sure what she's up to bruh. It honestly seems to me like she's running from someone because when I Kik her its always disconnected. I'm really tempted to just ask what's going on, because this seems a bit weird. She has a kid too, so I'm wondering if she's running from some guy. Advice is needed ASAP. I took a friend with me the first time and the address was in some shady apartments. I swear I saw a guy holding a kid come out and look at us, then go back inside. Paranoia is setting in. How should I approach this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2015): "I've wanted a relationship for so long that I've now begun to accept anything. I need to gather myself. My desire is becoming a driving force in my life and Im not sure how far it'll take me. Desperation makes you do stupid shit."
Congratulations on displaying insight and self-awareness seemingly beyond the grasp of many DC posters. Understanding why you've acted this way makes you less likely to repeat the behavior and avoid similar potentially disastrous situations in the future.
A guy with your smarts and sensitivity can do so much better than a calculating, conniving little shrew with baggage. As another aunt advised, next time raise your standards.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 June 2015):
 *Desperation makes you do stupid shit.*
Yes it does. That is why you need to practice some Common Sense. Stepping away from a situation that your INSTINCTS tell you to stay away from is common sense.
Maybe also set your aim a little higher then that one?
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reader, MrBigShot110 +, writes (9 June 2015):
MrBigShot110 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. The wise side of me and God have been telling me to drop this. My desperation is what's even gotten me this far into this. I really need to calm down, I know. I've wanted a relationship for so long that I've now begun to accept anything. I need to gather myself. My desire is becoming a driving force in my life and Im not sure how far it'll take me. Desperation makes you do stupid shit.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 June 2015):
Amen! to YouWish's answer.
This makes no sense at all, IF it was an EMERGENCY, she can use 911 not KIK... seriously.
Block her and move on. You KNOW something is VERY iffy here. If she WAS trying to get away from a BF, she should tell you. Not just involve you without your prior knowledge.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 June 2015):
 Uhh, she sounds like bad news to me. You say you "know her"...are you in a relationship with her? If not, and even if you are, I'd suggest you back away. She sounds like she's either playing games, or there's a screw loose mentally, or she's wanting attention. Either way, if there's a kid and a violent guy possibly, you do NOT want any part of that baggage.
Also, think with your BRAIN. IF she really needed to go to the hospital, unless YOUR cell phone number is "911", who KIK's someone for something like that? Did someone rip out her voicebox that she can't make a phone call or at the least, say she's experiencing abuse, text you properly? Why not message a hospital? Ambulance? Family (mother, father, sister, brother, best friend?) A call to the hospital isn't something done with a guy that you've been talking to for a couple of months.
Something ISN'T right. Follow your instincts, think with your brain, and don't blow off what you're feeling. Cut her loose and move onto someone without a bunch of mental red flags.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): "How should I approach this?"
Trust your instincts, accept the reality that if she's acting this strangely when you've just met then she's someone with whom you're better off not getting further involved, and forget about her.
If I were to guess what she's up to, I'd say she's off-and-on with her baby daddy and is playing you for a sap to make him jealous which could put your health and safety in serious jeopardy.
In any event, she's a virtual stranger you've only known for two months and if you had one ounce of common sense then you'd already know she's not worth the effort. Weed her out and move on!
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