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writes: Is it impossible for a 17 year old guy to get with a 19 year old girl? I know most girls go for older guys, this one especially, but she is always flirting with me! As a result I have fallen head over heels for her. This is my best friend's sister and I have known her and liked her since 8th grade. She knows this but says I'm too young for her. However I can tell she is attracted to me because she shows all the signs and I am a very attractive / muscular guy. But for some reason she won't give in. I have seen the ways she treats her guy friends and loves to play hard-to-get, like not answering calls on purpose to guys she is attracted to and such. Also it may be due to the fact that she is my friend's sister but I don't know what to do except maybe wait it out. Please help me, I love this girl to death...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2006): Two years is nothing. Usually teenage boys are not as mature as teenage girls. Also, she's at the age where she's an adult and you still aren't. You're probably in high school and she's probably graduated. This means that the two of you are probably living completely different lifestyles. All of this said, I'm not trying to put you into that category, but she may have gone through this thought process. Have a talk with her, and if it's meant to be, things will happen for the two of you. Good luck!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Look, I don't think this is about age somuch, as her being a bit of a game player, and a bit too obsessed with what other people think!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 It's not "impossible", but this one sounds unlikely. And not because of the two years between you. I think she's just not a good choice, because, to be truthful with you, she doesn't sound that "mature" herself if she's still playing silly head games with the men in her life.
"Hard to get"? Please! What's next? "Spin the bottle"?
Even though you're attracted to her (and that might only be because you've known her a long time, so she's not as intimidating as those you don't know as well), it doesn't sound like you're missing out on much. Do you really want to be the guy that rings her and gets ignored because she's hoping to make you jealous?
Shudder.
If you want to play a much more adult version of her girlish head games, then go out with other women, have a wonderful time, and don't waste time chasing after someone who's said that she's not interested.
Nothing appeals more to women than a man that other women want (maybe it's the herd mentality, I don't really know), so take your attractive/muscular build out of there, and go date some women who *do* want you.
Maybe in a couple of years, when you're 19 and she's 21, she mightn't see such a gulf between you.
Of course, when you've been dating other women for two years and seeing how well you can be treated by the ones that care about you, your mate's sister might not look so attractive any more. It's a risk I think you should take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): I know what you mean im in love with a 19 year old and im only 15 he said he will get with me when im 16 dont give up on her if u love her. just get to know her more invite her out somewere
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