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male
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30-35,
*rdinaryrisktaker
writes:Dear Cupid:Me and my gf have been together for a year and a half now and well everythings going great until lately.. You see she's been hanging around her sis which honestly I have no problem with since that's her family and all.That's not my issue though it's that there was a time where she listened to me and her sister at the same time but now she listen to her sister more than me... And to prove it when I would talk she would either tell me to hold on or she would say huh? what did u say mind you when as soon as I speak then boom! again tells me to hold on. I've spoken to her about this honestly and told her that I didn't like how she would ask me and as soon as I talk she would not listen which sucks alot trust me.In addition when I text her and she's with her sister she takes alot longer to reply to me than when I talk to her on the phone and she gets a text from her sister. Anywho she and her cousin are very distant and they don't talk at all, at first this feeling went from an okay feeling to me and her being in a distance like her and her cousin are now. I felt dead and no longer was hungry or ate she told me she would never let that happen and that the reason why she is the way she is that she guesses that since her sister moved out is why she talks to her more now. I felt like I was nothing for some reason I really love her and all she tells me she loves me more but feels like lately she's not showing enough of it. I feel less depended on than before. In the past I felt on top of the world cuz she depended on me always.. At the same time I do like the fact that she depends on herself too but I dunno I miss how it was then..Anyway sorry for making this long I just need advice at the moment.. Had to take this off my chest please and thank you
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Listen girls aren't mind readers, you do have to spell it out for us at times.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 October 2010):
What exactly is your question? Of course she's going to be close with her sister and give her time..she moved out and doesn't get to see her as often. I'm sure she misses her. How is there a change in her showing you love? Just because she's not texting you back right away or busy spending time with her sister? So what...She can see you anytime. But she can't see her sister all the time. Also, I get that her and her sister may have not had that great of a relationship but now that she's moved out of the nest they've gotten closer. So chill out my friend. It's healthy for her to have a close relationship with her sister and for her to learn some independency. You sound a little needy, don't be. Just talk to your girlfriend and tell her you feel a little left out at times. It would be nice of you to get to know her sister.
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reader, Ordinaryrisktaker +, writes (21 October 2010):
Ordinaryrisktaker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dunno what to feel anymore it feels as if she leaves more than stays and then she tells me that i dun tell her to stay that there was a time where I had no problem telling her to stay. I told her that was the same time she had no problem staying without me telling her
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