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*vermyhead123
writes:So I've been talking to this girl for little under a month now. We met online and met up for the first time about a week ago. The date went great, we held hands shortly, and shared a small, innocent kiss before she had to leave. We talk almost everyday, usually txting, but I call her sometimes. She told me she likes me A LOT a few days ago and she always flirts with me when we txt. But, it seems that I am always the one who txts or calls first. She recently found that her past relationship was a fake, and she's still coping with that. I don't want to be the rebound girl, but I really like her. Her parents know about her sexuality, but my family has no clue. I have to use my friend in order to see her, and I have not been able to meet with her since our first date. So since Thursday, when I spilled my guts to her telling her how I know I flirt sexually, bbut that's just how I am and I do not just want to "hook up" with her or play her, and that I really liker her and that I know she recently found out bad news about her ex, and I assured her I am not that way at all, and that I am sorry we have not been able to see eachother, she responded positively. But it is now Saturday, and I have yet to hear back from her. We were supposed to webcam this weekend and try to see eachother on Monday. What do you all think? She is much more experienced in relationships than I, but I don't know what's going on. Thank you everyone
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reader, overmyhead123 +, writes (17 July 2010):
overmyhead123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you brownale. You were right, she was insecure about her past relationship. I did continue talking with this girl and we got very close, and I made her my gf. We did tell eachother "I love you." We are no longer together because we were never able to see each other, although we communicated daily all day through txt and calls, so she started talking to another girl she "used to have a thing with" and started seeing her daily and did not let me know this, but asked for "space" due to family issues and things she needed to take care of. I gave her space for about a week and then confronted the situation. I told her to choose between the other girl and I and she refused, saying she "wasn't going to pick anyone." So she basically told me that she was never able to see me, and she could see this girl all the time, and she had developed feelings for her. I eventually at the end of the night told her I didn't want to talk anymore, in hopes of her contacting me and choosing to be with me. She is now girlfriends with that other girl and they already say "I love " her and I are still in contact, called her a week later after telling her I didn't want to talk anymore, and I left her a message telling her I still wanted to be friends and I wish the best for her and will always care for her. I talk to her occasionally and every time we talk she never mentions her current gf, she has never once mentioned her to me. The last time I talked to her was this morning for about 20 mins, I called her. It felt good, it was almost like old times. Even though we only met twice in person, we shared a lot of amazing times, and said a lot of great things to eachother. We felt very strongly about eachother, and I felt if I were to see her again/more often, her feelings for me might come back. The truth is I miss her, and I still love her, and I want to be with her. I'm torn because she is with someone else now, but I would like to set up a date to hang out with her just as friends, to see what would happen. So my question is, do you think there is a chance of us ever getting back together? What can I do to help this to happen?
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reader, brownale  +, writes (7 June 2010):
It seem's she is insecure about something. Maybe her last relationship is still playing on her mind. If you have had a heart to heart with her and she doe's not reply soon maybe it is time for you to carry on with your life you cannot keep waiting for other people. Be honest with her and tell her your not going to wait a lifetime. And maybe if you mean something to her she will see light off it ... Good luck :)
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