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writes:Its been about four days since my last post. And my husband has currently convinced me to move back in... We still sleep in the same bed. But I do not allow him to touch me. A kiss or too I'd fine. As for sexually UHUN!. The day I posted that post is the day I gave into him.. Anyway. The past couple of days he will get up in the morning. And make the kids breakfast while I'm still resting hell come back to the room and lay with me. And whisper sweet things in my ear. And when I wake up fully hell kiss my neck and say I love while looking deep in my eyes. The only issue I have here.. Is every time I feel that he isn't gonna do it again a picture of him screwing his ex flashes through my head and I feel sick to my stomach and feels disgusted by him.then he'll do something else sweet and charming and then the sick feeling goes away .. Later it come back again.. Any suggestions about this??..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): forgive him, don't know but NEVER forget, yes time is a healer but do not be swayed by his sweet good for nothing words. i havn't read your previous posts so don't know what did transpire. be wise and be super observant. do not hide and pretend he did not cheat and be realisitc. he thinks by sweet talking then you will forget and give in to him. he will use the sweet words and the sex to get to you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Time is a great healer . It is easy to tell you but difficult to do it.
In time, you will slowly find there is no more pain and you can then focus on his positive traits and together build up your home again.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 That's the pain bit, and it's perfectly normal. It takes time to forget his betrayal, accept that you are human, as you have accepted that he is. Tell your husband what your feeling, the thoughts that torture you and make you sick. You've been hurt, and that will take a long time to get over, the more he shows you love, attention and care, the quicker the bad memories will go away.
It took me 3years to forget, 3 years of tons of kisses, kindness and gifts from the low down dog who did me wrong. If you've decided to stay, and he's decided to treat you like a queen and never betray you again, then your marriage will get stronger than ever, the memories will go and you'll be left with lots of memories of the nice way he treats you now.
You've every right to get upset sometimes, but that doesn't mean your marriage is over.. be gentle on yourself, you will heal in time.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 If you realy want to be with yo husband you need to be forgiving whole heartedly.be positive and dont let negetive thoughts destructs you.think about the good times you had together.talking about with him wil help a lot.goodluck!
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