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writes:I dated this girl for 2 years in college but towards the end of our relationship we started fighting a lot and kinda fell out of love. We broke up in feb 2009 and continued to remain friends. In May we started hanging out a lot and started acting very couply. We kiss on the face and just small pecks on the lips. Between that period she started having a physical relationship with this other guy which she broke of in april. I asked her if we should get back and she wanted to, the only problem was that she was confused. She still wanted to enjoy the single life but didn't want to lose me. I told her that i needed an answer by august cause i cant wait for her even though i really love her to death. She told me that 'She loves me but is not sexually attracted to me'. I don't get what she ment. She says she wants to be with me but is not physically attracted to me. We had a very active sex life but now she dosent feel turned on when she sees me. What should I do? What does she mean by this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): My man, to be blunt that means you should move on. It is almost impossible for a woman to "make herself" sexually attracted to someone. And this is not to be an asshole. I dealt with that situation before. When it comes to sexual attraction, (in my opinion) women are not that much different from men. Simply put, if she wants to "do you" then she will "do you" and nothing will stop her. Other than that, if she is not sexually attracted to you, then all the "love" in the world is not going to change that. I found that out the hard way. If you love her that much, that is real cool, but just prepare to be very disappointed in the long run. Right now you have to choose between your own self pride, and her. And if that were me, self pride is a hell of a lot more important.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 yes its possible for us girls to love guys and not feel sexually attracted to them.
it suggest she now see's u more as a BROTHER rather than a bf.
in this case there doesnt seem much in redeeming this relationship. if u want her back try revamping your image, maybe this will get her rocking!!
good luck!
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reader, betty_black +, writes (1 July 2009):
 It means that she still loves you, loves your company and loves who you are but isnt attracted to you anymore. This happens, people grow out of others, types change. Id advice you either remain friends and try forgetting your feelings, or if its too hard then cut her out. Its not gonna work out if shes not into you.
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