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26-29,
*oushite
writes:So me and my gf talked about our previous sex lives. I was a virgin for our first time and she was not. She told me her previous boyfriend was able to make her reach her "max climax" most of the time they did it. For me she she said that im able to make her cum multiple times before her max climax. She said she loves it but the problem is i have only been able to do that twice. Afterwards due to my premature ejaculation i can seem to control myself as well as i did before. If i stop to take time to recover she begins to lose the feeling. Lately we have not been in intercourse for quite some time now. We engaged intercourse not so long ago after a long break and i could not give her an orgasm more less make her cum. She hasn't been reaching her max climax and im feeling pretty bad about it. I need to find a good way to control myself instead of not being able to hold it back. Any sorts of help is appreciated thank you
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (2 July 2011):
Hi - you sound like you like to please your girlfriend, and I would have thought thats exactly why she is with you and not her ex - being the best sex she has ever had is not the be all and end all of the relationship - be the best boy friend shes had instead by meeting her emotional needs as well as giving her orgasms - thats a mature approach to relationships.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (2 July 2011):
 I'm almost ten years older than you and maybe I'm out of the loop but you or your gf seem a little confused about...things. An orgasm=cumming=climax...in my opinion, a girl is lucky if a dude has the stamina and the patience/drive to want to have his girl come twice (unless it comes really easy for her, which it sounds like it doesn't), then they have a good thing going on. That she expects three orgasms is like...something that should be reserved for her birthday. Particularly at your age (no offense), it IS more difficult to last as long as she's asking, and I think more control comes with time. That said, if she really can't handle only one or two orgasms per session, short of leaving her, which I would consider since she sounds too high maintenance to me, I would consider buying a vibrator. I know for me, i can have many orgasms (5-10 when I feel like making it a multi hour endeavor) from a vibrator. good luck.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Hello,
A lot of your worries here are comparing yourself to her last boyfriend. :( This is spoiling your fun with her. Remember, this is your first sexual girlfriend and you are excited and you should be enjoying things and having pleasure. I don't know why you have had a break in sexual activity. Your girlfriend should possibly be looking after you more. Has she complained? Or, is it only in your fears?
You seem to be worrying too much about what if's instead of just being excited and having pleasure? Can you possibly explain some of this to her? A loving girl will look after an inexperienced guy and make sure things are pleasant for him.
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