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writes: I have fancied my best friend for three years and up until a few months ago we were always close, flirting and she even told me she fancied me. We both have other friends, but spent most free time in each others company (live together)- practically like a relationship, but without the sex. I tried making things more serious but she didn't want to- (could be because im a girl) i was ok with this. But the problem i had was that she didn't want me but wanted me to support her in everyway when shes upset, bored stressed etc. Then on nights out she started seeing this guy, she didn't want a relationship, but had a kiss and cuddle. I didn't wanna be a mug and wanted to know if she liked him because i was jealous- so i could back away tp protect my feelings because it really hurtShe kept saying it was nothing- she didn't like him, it was a one off, and it kept happening getting more and more serious.When i talked to her about it, she would start crying and telling me she didn't wanna lose me, and that im the one person she cares about more than anyone else and she would do anything for me,and i kept giving in.She has spent the last month dropping me in an instant, for a night with this guy- but hes just a sex based thing--- now her prorities have changed she will come running back to me.My question is she has got exams coming up- where she can't sleep at night without my support, should i support her?What should i do? i feel so used, lied to, unwanted from sumone who made me feel so special. I think i still love her and couldn't bear to hurt her, even tho she dropped me in a second, and even more afraid to lose her completely- it would brake my heart. help!?thanks
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 I am all for helping out other people...but not at your own expense! If you don't put your foot down on her on-off approach to your friendship then she will carry on acting badly to other people in the future.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (29 April 2006):
 sounds like a roller coaster if you ask me . it sounds to me thta thid perosn is very difficult to be firneds with as she turn from wamr to cold basically I think that you ahouldn't supoport her at all
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