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*usGuy
writes:I have been dating a wonderful woman for nearly 4 years and we both know once we sort out our families and other commitments, like work, we will get married, move in together, start a family etc. That’s not the issue; I’m just letting you know we are dedicated to each other.I have two problems, well not so much problems but worries. She is, to put it easily, a BBW. Heavy set; a big and rather busty sexy girl. I myself am of just over average build, a bit cuddly. We are both working towards losing weight. However our sex life generally involves me on top, thrusting into her until we are spent. We have tried with me on the bottom and her riding me but it just doesn’t work out as I can never get into a position for penetration. Doggy is ok but tiring for both of us as I slip out constantly. I have had some success with side entry, but again while pleasurable it is difficult to pull off for longer than a quarter hour. At current our love making consist of extended foreplay where, with toys and vibrators, I get her off multiple times then once she is spent (and not too sore) I try to take my pleasure.This brings me to my next difficulty. I take forever to cum. I’ve had multiple partners before meeting my love but I still take ages to get off from penetrative sex. It’s just delayed and without forcing, by imagining or stimulating myself to cum, I don’t. We use condoms.When I masturbate I can make myself cum pretty reasonably, but when I have actual sex unless I’m really turned on or forced by my partner to cum, I just cannot. I’m hard as anything and can keep going until I literally wear myself out which can be an hour maybe more. It’s painful for my current partner and quite embarrassing for me.Other partners I have had in the past were fine with it as I was a walking hard on for them to use as much as the liked but now… I need help.Doctors say lose weight and stop stressing. It not like I’m impotent I’m the opposite so any drugs don’t really do anything but keep me harder. I want some advice please. On positions we can try and on how I can turn myself into a premature ejaculator. Maybe there is a drug out on the market. I have no idea what to do.Thank you.
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reader, AusGuy +, writes (7 April 2014):
AusGuy is verified as being by the original poster of the question The holding off masturbating I have tried on several occasions. From a week to three months. No wet dreams, no... you get the idea.
While I was more horny going into the sex. I still had the same issue (on some occasions as this issue does not occur with every sexual encounter).
Later, I'm embarrassed to say, when I reflected upon the sex earlier and masturbated I cam reasonably soon and in a large quantity.
As for sex sites. A lot of them I find are aimed towards the girl not the guy. They give very generic advice. I like visual guides best as it allows me to relate to similar body types.
Thanks for your input.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 April 2014):
 well if you google Sexual positions for BBW there are tons of pages:
http://mattforney.com/2013/07/01/the-bbws-ultimate-guide-to-fat-sex/
http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/sex+tips-246940.html
http://www.essence.com/2013/10/01/intimacy-intervention-%E2%80%98best-sex-positions-plus-size-women%E2%80%99/
are just the first three hits...
scissors and dovetails (essentially the same) always work well for big bellied girls. I'm a former ssbbw (size 26 american) so I speak from experience.
as for the ejaculation issues... no more masturbating... that will solve that problem.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (7 April 2014):
Remove masturbation altogether. Also, hold off on sex for about three days to a week (doesn't need to be longer). Occupy those three days with exercise and propping a healthier lifestyle.
Side entry can work if you are both on your sides, on the bed, that way the bed gives a lot more support. Doggy can also work if she adopts a flat frog position, which a pillow to prop her waist. This is similar to pron-bone.
Good luck I hope something helps.
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