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writes:Hi all,I’m hoping for some sensible insight on this situation. I’m a 33 year old gay man, very quiet and academic most of the time, though I do sometimes enjoy the odd party. It was at a social get-together that I met another man, and we became friends - I assumed he was heterosexual but later I discovered that he was bisexual with a preference for men, and he was interested in me.We had any long conversations and I admit, I love his company, his wit and the fact that I never have to change myself or the way I talk about things with him. He’s very intelligent, very handsome, sensitive and attentive in all the right ways, but the problem is that he is 20.When we are out, we get taken for the same age; he looks older and I look younger, so we are both read as about 25/26. But the age gap makes me feel creepy and a little worried. To begin with, why would he like an older guy like me, when he could have the pick of younger people? This preys on my mind. Secondly, is the age gap just too big? I don’t have any money (we’re both students) nor even my own home, so his interest isn’t anything to do with that. He says he doesn’t care about my age and doesn’t really notice, but I’m not sure. Deep down, I want to give it a try but I don’t want to get into something that will be a recipe for disaster.
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reader, juicygay  +, writes (21 August 2010):
I don't think that the age-difference matters and it obviously doesn't bother your partner and so, for that reason, I'd stop worrying about it and concentrate on being happy.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (14 August 2010):
 sounds like you have found something of high quality and you are trying to pick holes in it as some sort of insecure self sabotage. i would stop trying to crap all over your good luck- something good has worked out for you, enjoy it cos you deserve it!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 The fact that you're even worried about the age difference is enough to convince me that you're not a creepy guy- others may not think this way but who really cares?
He's 20, not an 18 year old straight out of school... or younger. I say go for it and to hell with everything else.
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (9 August 2010):
The age difference isn't that big and it seems that you really like each other's company. If the only thing that's bothering you about the possible relationship is the age gap, forget it! He may the THE right person in your life and it would be a pity to lose him because of a petty "problem" like that.
PS: My mother is 11 years older than my father. My father is 11 years younger than my mother. They've been together for over 20 years and even though they sometimes have tensions in their marriage, divorce is not even an option peeking from a distance.
One more example. I am 18 and a friend of mine is 40. He's also my arts teacher, but we do stuff together outside the art school as well. I tell you, age difference is nothing!
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