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*ovethewayyoulie
writes:I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with this girl he works with and here are the reasons why:-I have never heard of or met her-Her phone number was under some guys name whom my boyfriend plays xbox with, and he claims that the reason why he did that was because he knew what my reaction would be.- the only texts I found were really harmless, although there was one of her in a dress.I have never been a snoop, because the fect that my boyfriend was cheated on by his ex, and he always told me he would break up with me before he did something like that because he would never want someone to go through what he went through. we have been together for about 4 years, and I feel like its almost time for him to pop the question, I think he might do it because of the fact he was looking at this website the other day that does engagement photos (he didn't realize my mother was in the room when he was looking) but I dont want to say yes if he is cheating. I asked him about the texts and why he did that, and he admitted that yes he did lie and that him and her share similar interests and that they get along very well, but she is engaged and actually about to go away over seas for the army. He said its strictly platonic and he doesn't have feelings for her. He even said that we could all go out some night soon if I would feel more comfortable.I want to believe him but at the same time I don't want to look stupid. I believe that is my biggest fear, looking like the idiot who stuck around for so long. Let me also give you a little back round about me, I cheated when we first started dating, and he doesn't know. I think I would have told him when it happened but the fact is that he is friends with the person I messed around with (just kissing). I think that might be my underlying thing, I cheated so I feel like he will cheat. PLEASE HELP!
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reader, Lovethewayyoulie +, writes (10 August 2010):
Lovethewayyoulie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): You will never be stupid for trusting your boyfriend. Trust is the foundation of love. If your man is willing to get his relationship with his friend-girl out in the open and have her meet you, then he is appealing to you to trust him.
As for kissing someone else,if he hears it from anyone else, then he will feel betrayed, it could end your relationship. Perhaps you feel you need to come clean? If you do, you need to be ready for what may happen. He may be able to accept it and move on, or he may not.
If you are going to come clean with him, then I suggest you start by telling how important he is to you, how much you care about him and how much you want to build a special bond of love and trust, and that something is standing in the way... it is hard for you, you are scared, but that you know that the only way for you to have this very special love-trust bond is if you tell him this one thing ... something you are ashamed of, and would never ever want to do again....
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