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writes: My partner and I are both in the process of divorce from our spouses. We have had a two year relationship and filed for divorce from our spouses three months ago. My partner and I both have kids and his are, according to him, devastated that he has left home. They seemed to get better with the idea over time but now he tells me that they are crying and begging him to please come home. He is an extremely sensitive man and has been depressed about hurting his kids these past 3 months. He is telling me that his therapist has told him that he needs to go back home and make absolutely sure that his relationship with his wife is over (by the way a very possessive and controlling woman). He has asked me to wait until he goes through this process and said that the therapist told him that if I truly loved him, I would wait. He says 99% percent of his guilt is over his kids and only 1%of his guilt is for leaving his wife. I don't know how long I am supposed to wait and he doesn't either. He said maybe 2 days or 6 months he just doesn't know. Now I can't help wondering if I am being played or if he truly does love me. He also says he has to be able to look himself in the face and say he tried everything before he can be what I need him to be for me. Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I am sorry were you two having an affair for 2 years and then filed for divorce, that`s what I get from your letter. If that is the case, this man still wants to work out his marriage and still be with his kids. If he was in a bad marriage he would not be living in a home with a `controlling and possessive woman` he was just using that as an excuse to justify his cheating because now she the wife isnt so bad now..hmmm because he wants her baack and feels it was not as bad as he thought, let the man go to his family, sorry but when you sleep with a married man this is what happens most of the time they always mostly always go back to thier real love......Im sorry to sound harsh but you had to have seen this coming
Im not a fan of women who sleep with married men....its horrible = (
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reader, silvermist3  +, writes (3 March 2009):
I don't think you are a fool. If he doesn't go through with it, he will always have a thought in his head that it could have worked. He needs the closer with his soon to be ex.
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