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Roommate is bringing cats into the home -- but I already have a dog

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Question - (14 June 2013) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 June 2013)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I need your advice yet again agony aunts. Its not a relationship problembut rather a friendship problem. Ok, so I have 2 roommates and 1 is my best friend since I moved here. I also have a dog who loves people but can be picky with other dogs. Well long story short my friend is in a position where she needs to take her sisters two cats. It is not a good idea with my dog. He wasnt raised with cats and she knows this. I dont know what to do, the apartment complex is basically telling us to work this out and shes been ignoring me or fighting with me via text (even if were both in the house!) I dont know what to do, my dog has nowhere else to go. How do I save our friendship?

Added note: she also went to management and told them shes afraid/uncomfortable with my dog. :(

Shes susposedly bringing the cats in a week and putting it on me if anything happens

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A female reader, shrodingerscat United States +, writes (15 June 2013):

shrodingerscat agony auntBefore you totally dismiss the chance that your dog could get along with the cats, give them a chance.

It's quite possible that the cats and your dog will quickly figure out a social structure that works for all of them and get along fine.

Animals are a lot smarter than we give them credit for. Give your dog a chance to show you if it'll be okay with the cats before you outright say no.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 June 2013):

Honeypie agony auntWho is on the lease? YOU or all of you? IF the one who wants to bring in cats isn't on the lease, she needs to find another home for the cats and or herself.. tough titties.

If that is not how you want to do it, I suggest you start teaching your dog to be crated and ask her to keep the cats in her room.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (15 June 2013):

Aunty BimBim agony auntYou haven't said why she needs to take her sister's cats, nor have you mentioned why your needs should take precedence over hers, (or why she believes her's take precedence over yours), I think this friendship is doomed unless you are both willing to meet halfway here and negotiate a resolution between the pair of you. Good luck!

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A female reader, cmarieky United States +, writes (14 June 2013):

If its her place as well as yours then she is allowed to have her own pet.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013):

Is there a 'claws' in the contract?

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