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writes: I met this cute guy in my local gym two weeks ago. We had a little chat, two days later he asked for my number. I gave him and immidiately he told me he liked me and wanted me to be his galfriend. I didnt take him seriously at first because it was way to fast. He called me, we met and he insisted he wanted me to be his gal friend. I asked if we could take it slow, but he wasnt for idea. Since I liked him, I accepted. He sounds a nice guy, calls me often, and always there when I need him. The problem is now he is demanding for sex and am not ready for it because am not too sure of his motive and dont want to be used. His moving fast in the relationship makes me wonder if he is genuine or out to just sleep with gals. Should I give in? Can a guy who is genuine move so fast in a new relationship? He is single dad of three, never married and recenlty broke up with gal friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I will keep to my discision of not having sex with him and see if he stays or not.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 May 2009):
 NEVER ever let any one PRESSURE you to have sex. If you aren't ready and he CAN'T wait, he needs to move on.
I agree with Star, sounds like he wants you for the sex.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 There is a way to tell if he's serious. See him but stay off sex and make it clear he has to wait. If he honestly likes you then he'll be willing to do that. But if he's just looking for a fling then he'll lose interest.
The only thing to watch out for is if he's dating multiple people at once, since then he'll have a lot more patience with you. But you should perhaps be able to get a gut feeling whether that is happening or not.
Good luck.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Keep telling him no and watch him slowly fade away.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I would definitely be extremely careful around this fella. In fact, considering his track record, I would just leave this one alone. Never married, three kids, already pushing for sex...? He already told you he doesn't take things slow, and he's "demanding" sex? Whoooaa! This guy doesn't exactly sound like a keeper to me! He doesn't exactly sound like he's looking for commitment either, so unless you're really just looking for a FWB or a fling, I probably would ditch this guy and find someone not quite as pushy.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): the answer is NO. you know this. if he wants you - all of you , he will wait. what is the rush to have sex? your bits will be there tomorrow he waits until you want it.
Although, i think he wants you just for sex - your summary at the end makes me think so.
i would tread carefully and see if he is really into you and not just your knickers, if not, dump him and find someone who is in to you.
Hugs Star.x.
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