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Question for the guys: Why do married men flirt?

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Question - (24 March 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have a question from you guys. Why married men flirt? They want to get in to your pants? They want to add just a little flavor to their day? Or to see if they are still capable of attracting someone? So what is it? Why I am always a target, ok I am a beautiful woman but I have an innocent look and I am the target of flirtation all the time! Winks, big smiles, turning head towards my room at work anytime they pass. It’s included the CEO, some colleges, mailman………………lol

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012):

I am also 30 + and beautiful. It sounds friendly to me. Maybe you are looking a little deep into it? I get smiles and head turns all the time. It doesn't mean anything special. It's human... If this didn't happen? Maybe there would be a problem. ;)

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (24 March 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntWell to me what you describe is NOT flirting...

winking and blatant staring (head turning) is just rude childish behavior.

smiles are innocuous...

you already clearly are very self-assured so perhaps what is just being friendly is being mus-interpreted?

My best flirt buddy at work is

a. young enough to be my son

b. very happily engaged with two children

I am happily engaged myself and as my fiance says "if you stop flirting you stop breathing"

same with this guy.

it's just a fun way to pass the day at work.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2012):

Miamine agony auntI think married women also flirt, it's not a gender issue. Some people flirt, (I do) and some people don't. A wink, a smile, a pretty comment, makes some people smile and feel good about themselves, and other people find it offensive.

People are all different. Your a beautiful woman, and just like a beautiful flower, people notice and take the time to look. Can't really work out if your bothered by this, just curious or you are boasting.

I'm a woman, and I'd look at a beautiful woman too, or a beautiful man, or a beautiful child or dog... beautiful people are nice to look at. People flirt with me as well, and they also look. but I sure aint beautiful. As I said, for some people a "big smile", a "wink", a "look", is a over friendly way to say hello.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (24 March 2012):

C. Grant agony auntI wonder if you're taking things a bit too seriously. I respond to people the way they project. If I walk into an office and the receptionist is happy and open, I'll be happy and open back. I suppose it could be taken as flirting, but really it never would be if the girl wasn't flirty to begin with. And even if it was flirty, it's just fun -- this is someone you're having a 60 second interactrion with. It's fun, it's polite, nothing more.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (24 March 2012):

The Realist agony auntMen and women never stop noticing the opposite sex and flirting tends to be the most comfortable way that people interact with the opposite sex. It's not that they want anything further or that they are not happy with their marriages. You should be flattered that this happens although it can be a pain at times but for the most part it must be a nice feeling.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2012):

I know, I am 30+ but I am a woman and how do I know what is going on in your minds! When you are married and you know nothing will come out of it then why you still flirts? That is the part that I don’t get!

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A male reader, Hugh.J United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2012):

Hugh.J agony auntYou have answered your own question...."ok I am a beautiful woman". You must know by now at age 30+ that men are programmed by nature to look - and more, if they can get away with it!

Be happy that you have still got it; it may not last long.....

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