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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. I would be lying if I said I wasn't in love with him.I get scared cause I think he will leave me all the time. I want to talk to him about my fears, but guys hate girl stuff and emotion and all that. So I hide my feelings from him. He notices and asks all the time what's wrong, but I told him once; I promised never to make him worry about me. So when he asks I tell him I'm fine and he shouldn't worry about it. I have always had a male point of view on relationships. So, I know if I were a guy I wouldn't want to hear a girl's problems. Should I talk to him or is what I'm doing now the right path?Also, we text a lot when we're not together. But he rarely texts me first. And I don't want to seem clingy so, I rarely text him. Is this ok? Or do guys like it better when girls start the convo? And if they do like it when girls start the convo, how can I go about it without seeming like I'm too clingy?Help. Please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): hey i agree with a decent.. who told you guys arent emotionall.. it may seem that way because they act tough in public but they will do anything for their women..
you should talk to him, communacation is key..
if he loves you hes gonna be as emotional and loving as you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, the few times we have talked about this we really just skimmed it. He tells me he isnt in the relationship for sex, So i know its not completely physical Western.
Also, its me thats holding back. He really doesnt know anything and he's too sweet to push the subject.
but thank you just the same!
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reader, Western3589  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 I dont like the sound of this reletionship really. I love my girlfriend so much, i dont mind hearing about her emotional stuff. What you should do is test him, see if he wants it to be a more phiscal reletionship. If so i would leave him.
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reader, Luaris +, writes (3 January 2009):
 I actually like clingy gf's and Im a guy and when my gf has problems it makes me feel good that she knows I can be there for her during them. Thats not just how I feel either. Lots of guys feel that way. Talk to him.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Who told you that guys have emotional talk.?
If i guy loves you truly he would himself be emotional all the time.. You should not hide your feelings girl.. That is called COMPROMISE.. And TRUE LOVE DOES NOT DEMAND A COMPROMISE..
You're misinformed to a great extent on how guys feel.. And if a guy loves you, he'll be into you all the time.. Texting you, calling you etc..
Im afraid if he does not text you on his own, he might just not be as serious in this relationship.. You should talk it out with him..
It's not about being clingy .. I would love to talk to my girl friend whole day long without anyone disturbing the two of us..
G'day
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (3 January 2009):
Better feel free to cmmunicate freely; instead of having it all bent up. He sees that you're worried, so be honest with him. He may think you're hiding more than you really are, and that's worse. Laugh aboutit, and yourself, and insecurities; make it something intimate. You'll feel better, and so will he. Then roll around and have some fun:)
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