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*oyblossom
writes:One of my good male friends has a problem with his girlfriend. Well, they have been together for about two years and his girlfriend tells him what to do all of the time and won't allow him any freedom! If he wants to go partying with his friends, he can't if his girlfriend doesn't agree and if he tries to anyway, she'll tell his parents about it and get him in trouble. She won't let him conversate with other girls without getting mad about it. She hits him and bosses him around and he just takes it. She even forces him to do sexual stuff with her but I don't know how far she has made him go. Hardly anyone likes his girlfriend because she is bossy and mean (plus she is anorexic because she only weighs 87 pounds and she told me this herself!). Everyone tells my friend to break up with her but it seems like he's too scared to. He even said to me that she is a b**** and has started smoking because he's so unhappy being with her! What advice could I give my friend to help him with his girlfriend problem?
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reader, shazza256  +, writes (5 May 2008):
right heres the thing frist you put that she is anorexic and you sound like you must be jeslous of this girl second and most important thing is how do you really know what goes on behind closed doors he could be just tellin lies about the sexual demands on him and how long have you acuallty known this male friend of yours ?? and how would you feel about a lad u happen to love and been with for two years started to talk to other girls and ignored you like your not there? she might have a low self esteem and might just need some help why dont you talked to the girl about it if you can if not say to your male friend to her to get help
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 May 2008):
 Has his girlfriend ever been through sexual or physical abuse herself? Some of these abnormal behaviors are found mainly in someone who's been abused. That's where you'd see the forced sexual behavior, the control, and the malicious behavior in telling his parents.
In these relationships, I'd urge hit to get out of it. With her behavior, i'd be fearful too. What he needs to do is speak to people she can rebel against him with, and explain to them the fear and exactly what his plans are in ending it. That way if she attempts to do so, it's expected and not a surprise.
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (4 May 2008):
 Hi there,
I would definitely tell your friend to leave the relationship because he is not happy, and have him look at what he is doing to himself, which is smoking. You may want to point that out to him and tell him the fact that you do not deserve a girl that will make you sad and smoke and control you. You also have to tell him that he needs to leave because if you stay, he may get hurt. Tell him it may be hard, but he has to be the one to tell her that he can't be with her anymore and for the reasons he may have told you.
Good luck and I hope things work out for your friend.
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