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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 years we met while on holiday and live 200 miles apart we are in love and do want to be together but the distance is takin its tole on us. He moved in 3rd december and he recently moved back home because he missed family and friends we spoke about it and hes going to find a place for me to move there. he comes down a weekend a month sometimes for a weeek and we speak everyday via msn fone ect. I just wanted some adivce on how to stop us arguing its over silly things and properly because we miss each other. im not loosin him and i wil make it work but abit of advice would be nice thank you.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I'm in a long distance relationship to with a boy who i met on holdiday.We used to have silly arguments but all we did to stop them was to talk everything through, like if one of us had a bad day insted of taking it out on each other we would just talk about it and get it out the way. We plan things we want to do which we have found stops our arguments.Hope this kinda helpedLiviax
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reader, maxi_enigma  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Hey you should be happy that you get to see your bf once in a month. i know people who dont see each other for years and still they love each other.and the argument over silly things is pretty normal in every relation.hate is also a kind of love in my opinion.just think you hate only those few ones which you love.actually when they do something which you have least expected then you are hurt,so if you can withstand these silly arguments then its good for a long and stable relation.best of luck ~
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): heya :) i know how u feel. as i myself am in a kind of long distance relationship. me an my boyfriend have been together 1 and half years now, ours is long distance as he is in training to be in the merchant navy. for 3 months he is at his college, in this time i see him 2 weekends a month at most, sometimes just the one. then he is home for a couple of weeks, and then he goes off to sea, traveling round everywere, for 4 months. so we dont see each other at all for 4 months straight, and can only email.so i know were u are coming from. so, your asking how to stop arguing over silly things... well i guess this is because you are both hurting loads as you miss each other loads. you dont say what kind of silly things you argue over but heres a few tips i can give you from my experience. what you have to think of, do you trust each other? (wel of course you do else it would not have lasted 2 years)how does it make you feel when you see him, happy i guesS? when you are apart try to concentrate on when you will next see him and how happy you will be, instead of thinking "we are not together and this hurts" long distance relationships are hard, but think, the amount you like / love this boy... it may hurt so much not being together for so long, but imagine if you were not together at all and how much more it would hurt if you didnt have himi guess.. if you can see a small argument beggining to arise, stop and think, is it really worth it, as you cant hug and make up with being so far away. is the time you get to speak worth the arguing when you could be talking about happy things and strengthening your relationship?i hope this has helped, and i can relate aswell so it not just the 2 of you x
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