A
female
age
36-40,
*rashnBurn
writes:I have an office mate. He is my crush and I did everything so that he will knew it.One night. He invited me to join clubbing with his friends. After that, he took me back to my place. He wanted to stay for a while so I let him. We started to have a romance. He had it coming. The morning after...back to our office...He did not say anything. I let him knew I am starting to not to feel good about it though.How am I going to bear this?
View related questions:
clubbing, co-worker, crush Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, CrashnBurn +, writes (2 July 2010):
CrashnBurn is verified as being by the original poster of the question @All: You might wonder about big brother's advise. Here is what happened. I did not tell big brother that my issue was like a one night stand. But for me, his advise still helps...
A
female
reader, CrashnBurn +, writes (2 July 2010):
CrashnBurn is verified as being by the original poster of the question@All: Thank you so much... I feel better now.
Here is also an advise from my big brother from Washington. I just want to share to all readers who might have same agony...
Dearest CrashnBurn,
Most people will at some point in their life have to deal with a breakup with a partner and the emotions that comes with it. Sometimes it takes a while to get back on your feet and other times you feel better after a shorter period of time. It all depends on what type of person you are and how serious the relationship was. Here are some advice on how to make this period as bearable as possible.
# Clean breaks are generally better. Take some time away from your ex, even if you plan to remain friends. Try not to have sex after the breakup.
# Spend time in places where you might meet interesting people, either online or in person.
# While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later.
Just think about "moving on" in your life. Think of the reasons that you DO NOT want to be with him and not the "good times" or the "sex", just the reasons you are not together.
Your Big Brother
...............................
A
male
reader, dirtball +, writes (1 July 2010):
 I'm with q on this one now, if he said he's into the FWB thing and that it was a game, you got played. What was meaningless sex to him was meaningful to you and he used that to his advantage.
Based on his response, I'd likely put this ugly situation behind my and move on to someone who actually wants to be with you. Good luck.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): "We started to have a romance"Wrong interpretation of what happened. More accurately - "we used each other for meaningless sex."Hate to say it, but if what I think happened on that night happened, he will likely never have any real respect for you and that night to him will be nothing more than a punchline to his friends. Sorry to be so brusque, but the truth is the truth.My advice to you - never ever speak of it again, to anyone, and perhaps learn that this is NOT the best way to get a guy longterm.....
...............................
A
female
reader, CrashnBurn +, writes (1 July 2010):
CrashnBurn is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Honeypie:
Yes. I really hope we would be BF/GF after we slept together. He is single and the type of person that does not really take the lead when it comes to boy/girl relationship. So it appears that it was me who take the lead so he will notice me and learn that I like him.
@ dirtball and all:
I think I do not have the courage to ask him out again. I ask him if he is numb. The answer was yes. I ask him if it was just a game for him. The answer was yes. And he clearly stated that I am just his friend. He also said that he usually do things like what they called "Friends with benefits."
@ Ask oldersister:
Yes. I can act cool around the office like everything is normal. I do not have a choice.
@All:
I am afraid that he will kiss and tell...
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 June 2010):
 Never Eat where you Crap...
Which means...... don't date in the work place.
Did you hope you would be BF/GF if you slep with him? IS he single?
So many questions..
...............................
A
male
reader, dirtball +, writes (30 June 2010):
Ask him out again. Go out to dinner or something. Tell him you like him and think that you jumped in over your head, but would like to pursue things if he's willing (granted that's what you want). See where it goes. It sounds like you're going to have to take the lead on this one though.
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 June 2010):
 Wham bam thank you ma'am.
...............................
|
