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writes: i am having problems with this women at work she has started spreading lies about my boss and i that my boss and i are having sexual relations via texts which isn't true and that i'm wanting to sleep with my boss its gone around the workplace, and i have told my boss and he's reaction was that it doesn't bother him at all with a smile what is going on here
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 November 2010):
 Personally, I'd confront her in front of everyone. She won't do that again.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 November 2010):
 What can you do about office gossip? Nothing really. Just ignore it, those gossiping hens will find something else to gossip about then you'll be last week's news. However, if you are truly concerned it could affect your job then I would bring these rumors to the HR department's attention. Rather give them a heads up, in most work environments office gossip is tolerated to a certain extent.
As for your boss, he seems to find the humor in it..Although I would keep your space from your boss, you don't want to fuel the rumors.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Initially, I was concerned about your situation... but then I noticed a few things that were bothersome. First of all... you claim to be 41-50 years of age... yet your post is in all undercaps and lacks any punctuation. I'm in my 30's, and the majority of my friends are younger than me... but I can assure you none of us write like that. To be serious... you don't seem to be concerned about the way you present yourself... and may lack boundaries.
The second problem I noticed had to do with your question. Supposedly, the "women" in your company are talking about you, yet you are only concerned about your boss' reaction. Are you trying to ask us if he likes you? He may get an ego boost from your attention, but in all likelihood, that is the gist of it. Obviously, more than one person in your office thinks you don't act not professionally... so they don't care for you. Are you dressing provocatively or flirting with the boss?
Whatever the case, it sounds like you have brought the problems on yourself. Sorry to be so harsh, but I hope you change and move on.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 November 2010):
Oh, not good. This has actually happened recently at my place of work; not with me but with two managers at work. If any of this sounds familiar let me know: they were seen in each other's offices talking quite a bit, would go to lunch together, and appeared to be texting one another. I believe that it really was a strictly platonic relationship; however, rumors started flying around the office (and this is by no means a small office) that they were being pretty shady. There were some other events that occurred that were suspiscious but who's to know? Anyhow, everyone and I do mean everyone was talking about it. One of the girls I work with took it upon herself to inform the female manager (who she has a fairly personal relationship with) that there are some rumors going around that she and the other manager may be seeing one another and that maybe they should keep their distance so people can quit talking about them. The female manager was brought almost to tears and insisted they were only friends.
So what I'm getting at is that there probably isn't just one woman there that's spreading the rumors, many people may be picking up on something a little outside of "professional" interaction and are talking amongst each other about it. And I'm just putting it out there that perhaps you and the manager were spending a little too much time together that gave others the impression that maybe something was going on?
I'm guessing your boss is going with the "it doesn't bother me" thing because he assumes that getting upset over it would lead people to think that something really is going on? Because in some people's minds, if they aren't up to anything then why should it bother them? However, it seems to actually do the opposite.
So what I suggest you do is keep your distance from your boss if you did seem to be getting a little close. The drama in my workplace has seemed to die down quite a bit since they've kept their distance and presently seems to have blown over. If you haven't been close with your boss at all and no one has any reason to even think that you and your boss were having any sexual relationship then either he or someone in your human resources department needs to take it seriously because it's becoming a not-so-pleasant work environment for you. Hope one way or another something works out.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 I think what it means is that he does not think anything of it, it is just a hollow rumor. The smile could have just been friendly, to make things less awkward or uncomfortable, rather than forwning or glaring seriously. I think it was his way of saying "Think nothing of it, eventually it will pass". Just ignore them all for now and get on with work, or you could confront these women and ask them to stop spreading these lies because it is childish and unecessary.
Be careful of your boss though, if you think he is starting to flirt with you or anything, just confront him about it and make your point clear. It is inappropriate.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (18 November 2010):
If she is known for her bad character..most probably no one will pay her attention. but in case people come to tell you this, ask then if you really wanted to sleep with your boss then why you would tell her?? why would you make publicity of it?
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