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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): be warned im about to be weird..
ok look at it like this
you and him played a game
he was a loser but he won the game because he dumped you because you "got fat"
now he wants to play again
this is your chance to be the winner now
you have won yourself (losing weight congrats! now maintain that and dont lose more than you should- anyway curves are hot)
but you havent "won" him
the way to win him isnt to be a loser and get back with the LOSER that broke up with you because you "got fat"
the way to win is to resist him again even if you feel that you love him... trust me you mgiht think you feel something but later you can realise that you were so wrong!
so be a winner and say NO!
tell the loser to fuck himself
and if he persists or wants a reason dont tell him its because he dumped you for no good reason because he should realise that- tell him hes fat and needs to lose weight himself
and find a guy that deserves you!
:)
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reader, werenotincontrol  +, writes (4 December 2008):
Im a guy. And my advice to you is...
Tell him to go fuck himself. Its guys like that that gives a guy like me a bad name.
From an earlier answer
"we've got to train men sometimes.. that we do not become invisible because we became "double" in their sights."
Its true, Try to find a guy that likes you for who you are. Not what you look like. Trust me...Good guys are out there
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 If 20 lbs. weight gain was all it took then he "loved" you for what you look like and not you as a person--which isn't love at all. Don't get back together with this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): we've got to train men sometimes.. that we do not become invisible because we became "double" in their sights.
what's important is for you to hook your self esteem not on somebody else's approval, but on what you know about yourself.
i think you'll find somebody else worthier of the real you.
good luck!
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reader, KickRox +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Nope!
Just how you said no to all the fatty foods..tell him Hell No!
Congrats to losing the weight and get rid of Shallow Hal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): one answer
NO
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reader, blawndie +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Hell no! Shove the fact that you lost weight in his face! He doesn't deserve you especially if he broke up with your because you gained weight, what a horrible reason! You need someone who will love you, respect you and appreciate you at any weight, and clearly he is not that person!
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reader, Asked Angel  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 First congratulations on losing weight.Have you thought what might happen if you put the weight back on? will your partner leave you again?Our bodies change as we get older will he leave you then?I'm overweight myself and my B/F loves every part of me even the wobbly bit's and he would NEVER leave me because he loves the person i am inside and out.It's up to you if you get back with you B/F or not but do you really want to be with such a shallow person?Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): NO!!NO!!NO!! Don't get back with him!! Tell him to rot!!! You don't need people bringing you down like that because of your weight.
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