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I am unsure whether to date a girl due to how my friends would treat me.

Q.   This may seem shallow, but I am unsure whether to date a girl due to how my friends would treat me, when I'm with her they make comments for a joke, I'm not sure whether actually dating het would make them mock me even more.. Should I follow my ...

A.   30 December 2008: here never mind your friends if you lyk this girl you should date her!! no doubt bout it!! GOOD LUCK WIT YOUR NEW GIRLFRIEND ... (read in full...)

He seems keen one day then he doesn't seem to have any interest in me at all

Q.   I need some help bad!!! ugh i hate it when you REALLY like someone that has NO interest in u at alllll!!! i really like this guy ****** and he is so cute, funny, nice, and sweet. I love to be around him and i could be on the phone with him all ...

A.   30 December 2008: hey!! em wat you should do is tell the guy you like him!! you'll never know your friends might be right or else they mightent!! its a risk you should take!! if you say the both of ye have a laf together well then thats good!! they way i read ... (read in full...)

Poll question: What is the most arousing part of a mans body?

Q.   Poll(for women/gay men): Whats the most arousing part of the mens body? Shoulders, Abs, Penis, Ass, Back, Legs, Face...

A.   16 December 2008: wow thanks for all the answers:)... (read in full...)

Poll question: What is the most arousing part of a mans body?

Q.   Poll(for women/gay men): Whats the most arousing part of the mens body? Shoulders, Abs, Penis, Ass, Back, Legs, Face...

A.   12 December 2008: Thanks very much girls:) Its mostly shoulders and eye ye all picked, Thats very interesting, Only one person picked penis?... (read in full...)

Armpit hair.... do all men find it arousing?

Q.   Im 22 yrs old guy, right now working in private sector.. in my office most of girls wear sleeveless. in that somegirl have armpit hair.. if i saw that armpit hair i get arouse.. did this happening to all boys or not.....

A.   5 December 2008: No not me man, Armpit hair REALLY turns me off:P But some guys like differnt things...I love braces on girls!... (read in full...)

Whats wrong with our relationship?

Q.   Hey guys I think my relationship is failing and I really need some advice on how to fix it. We have been dating 15 months now and it has been great, After about 12 months things just started to get repetitive...We can barely text each other now we ...

A.   5 December 2008: Ya thats true "petina1" But Im not an alcoholic or anything...Id drink about 3 times in a month. Im not a heavy drinker, Ya I love to have a few drinks but I dont induldge in it ya know? Another thing which I forgot to mention is its very reptiti... (read in full...)

Should I shave my pubic hair for a first time fingering?

Q.   im a fourteen year old girl, and today a boy asked me if id like him to finger me. i think i would, but i feel self conscious because i have very small boobs, only a 34AA/A. also, my friends say they shave all their pubic hair, but i dont. i dont ...

A.   4 December 2008: Well I personally prefer it shaved, But thats just my opinion. Yes you are only 14 but I know alot of people who were having sex at 14 and turned out ok. Just be careful and dont let the police/Garda/Cops find out k? Best Wishes, xxx... (read in full...)

I don't understand If I am gay or straight, or bisexual?

Q.   I am a 28 year old male and I have recently broken up with my girlfriend. All my life I have been fantasizing about women and enjoying relationships with them. I recently had a hard time getting erect with my now ex-girlfriend. So I tried ...

A.   4 December 2008: Its not just gay, bi or straight. You can be biflexible, Or bi curious.. I once got an erection from homer simpson. It dont meanI think hes sexually appealing it just happened:P... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a mess socially - how can he get through the festive season?

Q.   Well, i'm dreading christmas with my family and my great boyfriend of 2 years, because he is so bad socially. i come from a large family and i am talkative, self-confident, a little loud and i can talk to anybody any place any time. i get on with ...

A.   4 December 2008: Hey my gf is the very same, Shes so quiet. My family are always like "awwwwwww" and my poor gf willget all embaressed and go red, Dont worry once your family know hes a quiet guy and once he knows that your family know hes quiet youguys should g... (read in full...)

Now that I've lost the weight he wants me back!

Q.   My boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago because I got fat. Now I've lost weight and he wants me back. I think if he loved me he would have stayed with me when I was overweight, so I'm hesitant. Should I get back with him? I love him, but am ...

A.   4 December 2008: Im a guy. And my advice to you is... Tell him to go fuck himself. Its guys like that that gives a guy like me a bad name. From an earlier answer "we've got to train men sometimes.. that we do not become invisible because we became "doubl... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend so much, but I've never been sexualy satisfied by him.

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and in that time i have never been sexually satisfied. I love him but he just cant seem to turn me on. i has been my first and only. He tries so hard so i just lie and fake it. I have tried to be honest in ...

A.   4 December 2008: Ah ya, Maybe buy a dildo and ask him to use it on you. Say its been a fantasy of yours since you can remember. If you still think it will hurt him get his name engraved on it;) Ask him what his fantasies are! Be creative, Take the innotive... (read in full...)

Why is sex such a big deal?

Q.   Why is sex such a big deal?...

A.   4 December 2008: Well it is because for alot of people its the one main act where you can show how you love someone. Another big deal is that alot of religions look down on sex and see it as a means of reproduction. Religious institutes(churches, cathedra... (read in full...)

My Penis is "turning" to the right - could be a health problem?

Q.   That's my second question and I love this site because of the anonymity, I greatly thank you about the last advice :) That's acutally very embarassing, but I'll try to explain. I'm 19, my penis is not too curvy, but when it gets erect it tu...

A.   4 December 2008: Im glad you started to write about this. This could be 1 of 2 things. The first being that fact that the left side of your crotch region has alot more built muscle than the right side. Meaning your fireman will start to shift towards the righ... (read in full...)

I get made fun of for being with my boyfriend.

Q.   i get made fun of for dating this boy that i love very much. there were rumors that we broke up and got back together, but then we did break up and then got back together because i couldnt live without him and got back together. now i get made fun ...

A.   4 December 2008: Hey I get made fun of over been with my girffriend as well. Alot of people tell me that she is too good for me. It relaly hurts and its really hard. You have to take a long deep look at yourself. And ask yourself this question Is he worth p... (read in full...)

How can one enjoy anal sex?

Q.   how can one enjoy anal sex...

A.   3 December 2008: Well there are a lot of nerves in the arse as well as the vadge so you just got to learn. Ya, lube is a must for obvious reasons. And scotch would help too but try rubbing your clit while doing too. Good luck... (read in full...)

What are the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5''?

Q.   What are all the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5 inches? I secretly cry in my pillow after sex because my body is so sexually pent up. I am 33 but I do kegol exercises everyday and I've had no children and my ex boyfriends ...

A.   3 December 2008: Have ye guys tried from behind? Maybe lieing down and moving your legsto the side and keep closed. Look up small penis positions on the net. There are positions with you can get greater penetration. If all else fails buy a vide and ride the may... (read in full...)

Can two people of the same sex get married?

Q.   Can two people of the same sex get married? My mum says yes but dad says no, and they are falling out about it. What's worse mum turned down dads marriage proposal and now he's thinking of leaving. Mum says it's just a piece of paper. What can i do...

A.   3 December 2008: You can get marriage rights and stuff, A few countries in the world have this like UK Russia and a few states in the US. As for parents its not them gatting married. Its up to you, Your choice Best wishes,... (read in full...)

Why doesn't she orgasm as much as she used to?

Q.   Been with girlfriend 2 years she used to have 2 or 3 orgasms every time. Now once every few times. Is she cheating or not into me anymore? ...

A.   3 December 2008: Dude this happens, 90% of sex relationships loose the spark after about 5 months. Its still there just not as strong Dont worry about it:P And if your still worried why not ask her?... (read in full...)

He likes someone else, but is willing to have me as second best... Should I get with him?

Q.   Do you think its silly if you dont want to get into something with someone that not only admits they are a commitment phobe, but also that has always liked someone you both know, but she doesn't like him in that way? Would you feel 2nd best? And ...

A.   3 December 2008: Personally I would feel second best. But if she dont have feelings for him she dont have feelings for him its as simple as that! He needs to realise that before he gets into any other relationship. Nobody in a relationship should be made f... (read in full...)

Help me to give my boyfriend a better blow job PLEASE!!!!!!!.....

Q.   ok i took some of some of ur advice and when i gave my bf head this morning he didnt cum and im kinda worried that he didnt like it. it was my first time. i just need to no some other ways to make my bf happy when i do something like a bj. i just ...

A.   3 December 2008: My gf used to askme when we started and it REALLY made me aroused.I used to tell her everythig I liked and she started to get used to it. I would highly recommend it. Basic tips is use your lips and tounge. MIND YOUR TEETH! Seriously real ... (read in full...)

Can I ask my brother to watch him masterbate?

Q.   Hi, hope u can help bit of a dodgy question but I walked into me older brothers room hes 15 and cought him touching himself. We both freaked out but it was to late and he came, he insists that he didnt but i saw it, he was shouting at me a...

A.   3 December 2008: Hey man you need to take a deep breathe and just relax a bit. Alot of people in teenage years get a few strange fantasies and feel weird over it. This will pass, and shortly too:) Im not having a go at ya or anything just telling ya relax... (read in full...)

Was I rejected? What do I do now?

Q.   PLEASE COULD YOU DELETE MY PREVIOUS ENTRY OF THIS Q, AS I MADE A CRUCIAL SPELLING MISTAKE THAT EFFECTED MY Q AND AS I RESPONDED TO AMEND THIS, MY MSG IS DISPLAYED AS ANSWERED, THEREFORE I'M UNLIKELY TO GET A REPLY FROM ANYONE - THX (SORRY COULDN'T ...

A.   3 December 2008: wow thats a tough one. Look it seems as if you have REAL feelings for this girl. Its a long term affection so its not a mere "crush" The "you dont have to wait" is a thought to dwell on. Have you thought about asking her? I really think yo... (read in full...)

Can your growth and height be affected by smoking?

Q.   what can cause growth to stop earlier than it is supposed to. im not going threw this but my dad did, he stopped at 16 and he was 5'9 he also smoked cigarettes, does really cause this. Just curious, i also heard that 2 much soda can cause an early ...

A.   3 December 2008: Yes it can! For some reason it affects girls alot more than guys. Your still a young age so your lungs have not yet fully grown. Smonking will halt this process. It stunts growth in muscles also. For guys smocking will also stop growth in th... (read in full...)

Should I loose my virginity to this guy that's a player?

Q.   I'm 31 yrs old and still virgin. I've being a virgin b/c I haven't had chance to loosing it. I'm in the middle of two guys who are military both. One I met and being in love with almost 2 years ago. I consider him the love of my life. Couldn't had ...

A.   3 December 2008: Well you know what people say with virginity, Its like a bubble. One prick and its gone. From experience My first time was terrible. It was with someone I cared nothing for and it was in a terrible place too(fast food restaurant bathroom... (read in full...)

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