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I can't get pregnant but I'm afraid to ask my doctor why

Q.   Okay so my and my fiance have been together for 6 years and we are trying to have a child but have had no luck. We have sex all of the time so timeing is not one of my concerns. We know that he is fertile because he got a previous girlfriend ...

A.   27 September 2010: Hi, i am where you are now been trying for 3 yrs with no luck. You have to go doctors to find out if there's anything wrong. I have been checked over and so far there is no need for tablets and fertility treatment yet. I'm 26 which is quite young. ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and have really bad period pains. Help!

Q.   hey there, sorry to bother you but what it is I'm 15 and suffering from really really bad period pains and I really need them to calm down, they are affecting everythin I do. I can't do nothiing, all I wanna do is sit all day and do nothing. I ...

A.   12 January 2009: I agree with fairy. I had exactly the same and the pill sorted them out. Stopped them hurting and stopped them from being so heavy. The other things that can help are hot tea and a hot water bottle. I would book a doctors appoinment and h... (read in full...)

Low sex drive

Q.   I have always had a very low sex drive...I enjoy it once I get into it but it sometimes feels like I have to force myself to get into the mood. I've always had a much lower sex drive than boyfriends, which has often led to problems. I feel like ...

A.   23 December 2008: I'm so pleased it's not a self esteem issue and good for you i'm sure you are very attractive and it's not big headed at all! Are you and your fella busy people are you making enough time to be intimate. I don't just mean having sex but spen... (read in full...)

Need Validation Please

Q.   I've been more alone than this - but never so lonely. I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this problem. When I was 15 I was infatuated with my best friend's older brother. If you were to read my diary it still has entries of only him. I was cr...

A.   23 December 2008: Unfortunetly you cannot choose your family. Your best friend just needs you to be there for her and support her. Before her parents know she will be old enough and strong enough to walk away from them completly if they don't accept her ... (read in full...)

Low sex drive

Q.   I have always had a very low sex drive...I enjoy it once I get into it but it sometimes feels like I have to force myself to get into the mood. I've always had a much lower sex drive than boyfriends, which has often led to problems. I feel like ...

A.   21 December 2008: Your not a freak. I felt very much the same a while ago. I didn't know at the time but my low sex drive was a confidence issue. I didn't find my self sexy so how could anyone else? If it's not your confidence Zinc is very good for sex drive i thin... (read in full...)

I was molested as a child, please help me, never told anyone besides my dad who didn't lift a finger!

Q.   My older brother molested me as a kid, then when I was 11 my cousin who was 19-20 molested me, at christmas. I told my father about my cousin and he did nothing. I resent my father so much for not helping me. My step-father always helps me no ...

A.   20 December 2008: I am so so sorry you have been so badly hurt and let down by your father. Have you ever had any councelling for yourself to help you work though how your feeling. As well as change your veiw on men. I imagine you have a pretty poor feeling abou... (read in full...)

Dealing with an out of control platonic friend?

Q.   I'm a 20yr old male, in college. people tell me that I have a paternal streak, or as some call it "old man syndrome". What I take that to mean is that I'm a bit of a downer, the "dependable one" and it shows in the way I treat people. The issu...

A.   20 December 2008: No It is not wrong or unusual for you to be concerned for a friend. But there is nothing you can do to help someone if they continue to make bad choices over and over again. Does your friends come to you for help and advice? Or do you see her in t... (read in full...)

Husband's deployed now I'm addicted to porno!

Q.   I am not sure how to say this or ask .. Ever since my husband deployed I have been pretty much addicted to porno.what does this mean?...

A.   14 December 2008: I completly agree with sommer aslong as this is not affecting your everyday life or interfering with your real life relationships i really don't think your doing anything wrong. ... (read in full...)

Should I have allowed a thief to sleep in my house?

Q.   So, me and my girlfriend live together and one night her uncle kicked her cousin out of his house. I've never met the uncle but I hear he is a real piece of crap. My girlfriend asks me if her cousin can stay the night at our apartment for a night. ...

A.   12 December 2008: This is a real tough question but i don't think your wrong i agree with you. However i can understand where your G/F is coming from for some people family is family no matter what. I think if her cousin was thinking about his family he wouldn't have... (read in full...)

How can someone change like this into a complete dickhead?

Q.   I had a boyfriend of seven months. We split in june 08. He promised me the world told me he loved me and would never leave me and i thought that he meant every single word of everything he ever told me. I had never felt a love like it and feel i ...

A.   11 December 2008: I think you might have to keep an eye on him from a distance. If he needs/wants you help you can be there but please try not to get overly involved and let it take over you life. You may just have to move on. I know how hard that is when you ha... (read in full...)

Am I to blame for the loss of my friends?

Q.   I'm wondering if I'm to blame for the loss of my friends. I'm in my thirties and I'm feeling kind of friendless after my recent break up. I know I neglected the few friends I had when I went into my last relationship. I'm trying to talk to them ...

A.   6 December 2008: I think alot of people feel this way in adulthood. I don't think it's your fault you feel like you have lost your friends, this will hopefully help you to remember to make the effort. It's hard as we get older we have lives/jobs of our own and we f... (read in full...)

My periods are irregular; I've discerned a band of coagulated blood. What could it have been?

Q.   Im 14 Years Old And Get Really Weird Periods. They Come At Random Times, Are Sometimes Heavy, Last For A Few Weeks Then When They Go Away They Come Back Only About A Week Later! Once when i was under alot of stress a little bean shaped thing ca...

A.   6 December 2008: I have those to babe. I think they are just where the blood get's clumped together. With your periods being irregular it may be because there was a lot that needed to come out. I think the best thing to do is go to the Doctors and explain your peri... (read in full...)

After 3 years I still just want to talk to her... any advice?

Q.   hey my peeps! Listen to my soppy story and see if you have any advice for me. Well im turning 19 in July.. This is my first year out of school. When i was in Grade 11 me and this other girl named "J" started talking through texts and calls. she had ...

A.   6 December 2008: You CANNOT make her talk to you. Maybe she worked about what that her relationship with her B/F is more important to her than you are. I'm sorry if that is not what you want to hear but maybe she's realised she can't have a relationship with you... (read in full...)

Are my expectations of my boyfriend too high?

Q.   me and my boyfriend of 15 months have been on a rocky relationship at times. but throughout our relationship he rarely calls me, i always cave in and call him the next day. rarely meets me on time, i always am waiting for 5-10mins for him. he rarely ...

A.   6 December 2008: Have you spoken to your B/F about any of this? I have been with my partner for five years and he is still late for anything and everything it's just one of those things that i have had to get used to. The money you lend him do you get it back? D... (read in full...)

How do I bring balance to this relationship and this girl I so love and adore?

Q.   Gawd...can someone give me some decent advice? I'm 35 and am seeing this beautiful girl that I absolutely love and adore. We've been seeing eachother for almost a year and we've had a lot of ups and downs, primarily arguing about stupid stuff. ...

A.   4 December 2008: You are not going to want to here this but YOU can't. This is something your G/F has to work on. Is there something in the past that is causing this? This sound's like a confidence issue which may require some therapy to talk through what may be ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to be friends? She wants us to be friends!

Q.   My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago. She says she doesn't want the responsibilty of a girlfriend. She says she doesn't want to see me and she is too busy and needs to concentrate on school. She says we can be friends. Do you think we can be ...

A.   3 December 2008: I think ex's can be friends but only if the two are really other each other. It is nearly impossible to stay friends if one person still has feelings for the other. I can't see any reason why you can't be friends if that's what you both really want... (read in full...)

Now that I've lost the weight he wants me back!

Q.   My boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago because I got fat. Now I've lost weight and he wants me back. I think if he loved me he would have stayed with me when I was overweight, so I'm hesitant. Should I get back with him? I love him, but am ...

A.   3 December 2008: First congratulations on losing weight. Have you thought what might happen if you put the weight back on? will your partner leave you again? Our bodies change as we get older will he leave you then? I'm overweight myself and my B/F loves every p... (read in full...)

How can someone change like this into a complete dickhead?

Q.   I had a boyfriend of seven months. We split in june 08. He promised me the world told me he loved me and would never leave me and i thought that he meant every single word of everything he ever told me. I had never felt a love like it and feel i ...

A.   3 December 2008: Could you talk to his parents and ask them if they have noticed any changes with him explain you are worried? Is there any mutual friends who can help him on your behalf? I understand totally why you want to help him but if he doesn't see he h... (read in full...)

Am I putting myself at risk by doing these things on webcam?

Q.   am i putting myself at risk? I have fantasies about guys watching me masturbate, so much that find myself getting people i meet in chat rooms to watch me on webcam. I dont let people that i know watch me as this would be very imbarising at scho...

A.   3 December 2008: Whoo Whoo Whoo. Yes you are putting yourself at risk Emotionaly if nothing else. Why are you going so far with lads at school? How old are you? I am serioulsy concerned about why you are doing these things. I did to much to young and it took me ... (read in full...)

And yet another break-up! I'm going crazy!! Someone help me out here please!

Q.   Well, I was dumped again last night. My g/f's cousin and brother are in town. He was here for a wedding and she agreed before he arrived that she would watch his 2 year old son last night. Friday night her and I went out partying with her friends....

A.   3 December 2008: Welcome to the world of women. Being a lady i can see thing from you g/f point of veiw. I am not saying she's right or i agree with her but we do see things diffrently. Men are from mars and all that. I also bring things up with my B/F that he t... (read in full...)

How can someone change like this into a complete dickhead?

Q.   I had a boyfriend of seven months. We split in june 08. He promised me the world told me he loved me and would never leave me and i thought that he meant every single word of everything he ever told me. I had never felt a love like it and feel i ...

A.   3 December 2008: The car accident could explain alot. I had an ex who was in a car accident and it COMPLETLY changed his personality. He lost a lot of friends and family because he turned into such a horrible person. He was not anything like that before. If you susp... (read in full...)

What’s the best approach to get to this guy?

Q.   I’m so confused about this right now so please help! A friend of mine was going to set me up with a friend of hers and asked me to check his profile out on her Facebook before she mentioned me to him. I had a look and wasn’t too interested and t...

A.   2 December 2008: I would be honest straight down the line. Like you say life is to short. Tell him your intreseted and if he is to he'll let you no and who know's what might happen. If not then what does it matter? Go for it ... (read in full...)

How can someone change like this into a complete dickhead?

Q.   I had a boyfriend of seven months. We split in june 08. He promised me the world told me he loved me and would never leave me and i thought that he meant every single word of everything he ever told me. I had never felt a love like it and feel i ...

A.   2 December 2008: Firstly don't hate yourself you have done nothing wrong. You will find real love again but that wasn't what you had with him. It couldn't have been because you didn't really no him. I think you need some space and time to work through how you feel... (read in full...)

Am I silly to help a guy that is playing games with my heart?

Q.   I really like a guy in my class. One day, he sent me a text message saying that " BAby.. I miss you." And when i asked him about that, he said he sent me a wrong message; he sent it to his gf. And he told me he didn't know what he did text to ...

A.   1 December 2008: First You are not responsible for this guy getting good grades and if he doesn't care nor should you. I have a feeling he's not intersested. Second Playing games is not the way to make things happen with anyone. I really think that if he wan... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a crush on one of my best friends!

Q.   I'm increasingly noticing that my boyfriend has a crush on one of my best friends. My best friend is unaware of this. However, I know and have come to realize it over some time due to our private dialogues with one another. Also, supposedly it was a ...

A.   1 December 2008: Are you sure about this. Why is your partner with you if he want's to be with someone else. Is this more about how you feel about yourself and your relationship? Do you think your boyfriend want's to leave you for your friend or does he like her?... (read in full...)

How should we tell her, her boyfriend's is a cheat?

Q.   Hi. About a month ago I had a drunken "encounter" with a friends boyfriend. I know what I did was wrong, and that's why I'm now trying to put things right. We were both ridicuously drunk and although at first I kept saying no and that he had a ...

A.   1 December 2008: You have to sit down with this girl and be honest tell her what happened between you and her B/F and you don't think your the only one's. You must be prepared that she may not thank you for this or even belive you. But even so she deserve's to no ... (read in full...)

Is it an attitude thing for me?

Q.   I as I have mentioned am very overweight. But everyone thinks I am great otherwise. Kind, thoughtful, warm hearted intelligent. I am working on losing weight. And it is going ok. Yes there are ups and downs and sometimes dead stops but on the...

A.   1 December 2008: If you do some research into people who have lost drastic amounts of weight you may see it's not always all about weight issues. Alot of people blame everything that's wrong in their life's on weight, lose the weight and lose the problems right? ... (read in full...)

I think he's trying to impress the wrong people... what should I do?

Q.   Theres this (cute) guy (he used to live in Australia and this Aussie accent) who's new to my school but only plobem is almost everybody says he`s a loser. The boys in my grade shove in lockers (he just lets it happen without defending himself) and ...

A.   30 November 2008: All you can do is be his friend hun, hopefully when he see's he can have nice people like you who just want to be his friend. That he doesn't have to impress people he will stop doing this and stop letting people be horrible to him. School is a very... (read in full...)

Is there a way to break this cycle or am I just doomed?

Q.   Why is it that the only women I seem to attract are the ones whose lives are a broken down mess, and who are needy, neurotic, insecure know-it-alls, who like me as long as I do what they wish, but the minute I think for myself or want to do ...

A.   30 November 2008: No you are certainly not dommed. But where are you meeting these 'Ladies'. Have you thought about any counciling to talk though you family issue's. This may help you get past what's happening and work out if subconsioly seeking out these wome... (read in full...)

This is driving me nuts! How can I get over her?

Q.   In february I was told by my friends that this girl fancied me so I naturally asked her out because she was attractive with a great personality. But after less than a week she broke up with me and I found that I fell for her, and even after all ...

A.   29 November 2008: Is there any chance of you getting back together? Have you spoken to her about how you feel? The only was you can get any answers is to ask her what happened and if she's still interested. This may also help you get past how you are feeling.... (read in full...)

My friends can't accompany me to the party, should I go alone to meet strangers?

Q.   alright so i'm going to a party tomorrow. it's a birthday party. for my old best friend. me and her have been friends for so long then she moved and we kinda drifted. but anyways, i was supposed to go with my new 2 best friends (well not new, but ...

A.   29 November 2008: I don't think you so good alone either. Is there some other friends that you can invite. If not is it the end of the world that you don't go to this party just onece. I'm not trying to scare you but as girls we need to look out for ourselve... (read in full...)

Are doctors used to silly questions like this? Should I ask?

Q.   I am looking for some female advice, I am thinking about going to the doctors just to ask if everything is ok "down below", I have always felt a little unsure if I am "normal" and I was just wondering if doctors are used to "silly" questions like ...

A.   28 November 2008: Honey there is really no such thing as a silly question when it comes to our body and how we feel about it. If your uncomfortable request a female doctor and i KNOW she will not find any questions you have silly. I'm sure everything is fine but... (read in full...)

She has also made up so much crap about me that I find it hard to believe she was at one point my wife...

Q.   I have been married for four years and my wife and I broke up some two months ago. At first she wanted me to stay with friends for a while as to give ourselves a break, but still being husband and wife. I soon found out that she was starting to go ...

A.   28 November 2008: I'm not trying to stick up for your wife but maybe she is hurt to about your break up. It is incredibly hard to stay friend's after the end of a relationship, as you have found out, if one person moves on and start's seeing someone else. Somebody... (read in full...)

Have any of the female readers felt the same way about their current partner?

Q.   I'm a bit confused and need some advice. Last week I started chatting online with a very nice young lady, and we have been texting constantly every day since. I met her for the first time last night down the pub, and after we said good bye I ...

A.   28 November 2008: I didn't feel that way about my current partner, but i have in the past ment some men that i have not had that inital spark with, then over time i've got to know them i reilise i have fallen head over heels for them. The fact that this lady want's t... (read in full...)

When is enough enough?

Q.   If someone has said that they have some feelings for you, but they feel there is too much getting in the way (distance, family etc), is there any point trying to win them over, even if you really like them?...

A.   28 November 2008: I suppose it depends how much you like them and if you really want it to work. My partner and i were togther in secret for two years because he's family wouldn't approve. It was hard but we made it work, he told his family and the accepted it event... (read in full...)

How can I tell him I'm not comfortable on top when he's just trying to protect me?

Q.   When I was younger I was sexually abused. I have had help to get past this and now I feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with my boyfriend. He has told me he wants to also, but is getting a bit over the top when it comes to his idea of ...

A.   28 November 2008: Hun, i think you just have to be honest with him. There's alot of ladies who don't like being on top and it's nothing to do with abuse but their confidence about themselves. I think just try and explain to him that you appreciate him trying to make... (read in full...)

Who do I end up having sex with the guy who hurt me, do you think I let myself be used for sex? Could this be because I never got over my ex?

Q.   Ok, this might be a little long sorry. When I was a freshmen in highschool I met this amazing guy, and i was pretty innocent when it came to physical stuff. Even though I was not a virgin i believed you needed to be dating someone almost a year ...

A.   27 November 2008: Oh sweetie i see so many similarities between you and where i was a few years ago. Yes hun i do think this new guy is using you. Have you heard the saying 'you only get treated how you allow yourself to be treated'. What i mean is why do you allo... (read in full...)

What do his texts mean? Is he flirting big time? He's married!

Q.   So I have been texting this married man, who is 9 years older then me. I am 17, I will be 18 next October. I texted him because I needed advice. He told me what to do, tell the kid I like him as a friend. I told him that I told him that, and im in ...

A.   27 November 2008: Sweetie you are not going to want to here this but you should STOP texting him NOW. It is wrong wrong wrong! As you already no. I am not saying it's all your fault he is as much to blame if not more. He should no better. Do you really want to ... (read in full...)

Since the abortion everything is falling apart! What can I do to get us back to happiness again??

Q.   hi everyone, really need advice! please help me, especially females!! Me and my girlfriend were together for 3 years and she was the most amazing person i have ever met. the first 2years of our relationship were the best 2 years of my life. Then she...

A.   26 November 2008: Your poor Ex girlfriend probably has no idea what she's thinking going through all that she has. The abortion probably affected her deeply if it wasn't what she really wanted. This break that you having i belive she is doing it for both of you, inst... (read in full...)

Should I date her? She is as shy as I am and have the worse friends in history, still I like her!!

Q.   Um, hey there. Recently there's this girl that I've developed a crush on. Well crush isn't really the best way to describe it. She's on my thoughts all of the time and I even dream about her. Unfortunately we have no classes together, and the only...

A.   26 November 2008: If you want to be with someone i see your 'reasons' as nothing you can't get past if you truly want to. As you get to know each other and become more comfortable in each others company, you may stop being so shy around each other. As for her frie... (read in full...)

Need Validation Please

Q.   I've been more alone than this - but never so lonely. I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this problem. When I was 15 I was infatuated with my best friend's older brother. If you were to read my diary it still has entries of only him. I was cr...

A.   12 November 2008: Sweetheart that is terrible and i am so sorry your hurting so badly. Unfortunatly there doesn't seem to be much you can do to change the situation. I am truly sorry you feel so let down by people you thought you could trust. I trully hope you can ... (read in full...)

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