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writes:I'm 22 currently dating a man who has only had one relationship. He was with her for 5-6 years and they have a child together. So they have to stay in contact. I don't think he is over her. He never says "i love you" to me unless i say it first. I sometimes feel as if he doesn't even like me. I have talked to him and he says "I've been let down so much i don't look forward to anything" also he "doesn't really think about me in his future". I'm the kind of person that needs to be loved to be happy. What should i do???
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 HiHe might not be in love with you as much as you are with him.I dont see the connection with the ex though.Has he dropped hints he still has feelings for her.You said you need to feel loved to be happy, maybe hes not the same, not everyone is. And he isnt thinking about anyone else at all.He might of been young when he spent so long with her? Maybe he hasnt done the single guy enough yet.If hes not giving you everything you need emotionally, might be best to be strong and move on.C xxxxx
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reader, x_goddess_x +, writes (7 August 2007):
 "doesn't really think about me in his future" he must not love you has much as the other gal otherwise you would be in his future no offense but by tht comment he sounds like a jerk you could do better
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I'm afraid to me it sounds like he needs more time to get over his troubles. He was with her for a good while. and with him having a child together with her only makes it harder. That said, it simply isn't fair on you that you should have to wait for him to love you enough that he's show it. You should be able to find somebody who you can have this with.I suppose you should just try to explain that to him: He's still in a lot of pain, so you don't think he should be dating just now. Also, you want more love and affection, and if he can't give you this due to past experience it just proves that he isn't ready to be doing this just yet. However, if you still want things to continue all I can suggest is that you give him more time, and if things are going well for you both, maybe he will start to realize that you aren't going anywhere, and from there; who knows? But I'm getting a bit ahead of myself now.
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that +, writes (7 August 2007):
well you cant think he will just get over a relationship like that they had a child you just have to talk to him bout it .. ask him if he is over he rand for him to tell you the truth... and that you wont be mad if he is and if he says no then tel him that he hasyour number and wait for him to get over it .. he might not get over it and you might find someone you will love till the end of your life..but if he says yes i am over her then ask him why then do you do al lthe stuff you posted most of the time on thses thing the promblem can be fixxed by just talking to the other in the promblem.... i am 15 and you might not trust me .. you dont have to it is just advice..... but i wish all the luck with you andi hope it works out in the end like how you want it to.....
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